3 Conversations you might have this week What kind of experiences (that will be good memories) do we want to have as a family? What new ideas did we see/ think about/ dream that we want to incorporate into our celebration of Chanukah in the future? What makes a great gift for you (and other […]
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Our views are based on our values, standards, ethics, commitments, dreams, passions, etc. When someone shares their perspectives or opinions, they are showing something about themselves – what is important to them, what they value. When someone is expressing their opinion, instead of asking yourself the question, “Do I agree or disagree?” asked yourself “What
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Sometimes, when there is conflict, the conversation doesn’t go as well as we would like. Emotions may be getting in the way. The timing may be off. You can say, “This is important. I want to talk about it. Not this way.” As possible, take a break from the conversation and pick it up when
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When something resonates with you, you’re saying that it is in line with your own experience and outlook. When you share an idea, opinion or suggestion, you might start or end with “How does this resonate with you?” This shows the other person that you are putting out the idea and that you are interested
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Show your spouse that you notice who they are and what they bring to your life and to the world – their dedication to your family, their passion for their work, the way they always can help you out of a bad mood. Compliment your spouse on one of their unique strengths. Make it genuine
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“Sometimes we say ‘I can’t, I’m unable’. What we really mean is, ‘I won’t, I’m unwilling’. The secret to success is knowing the difference between the two.”-The Baal Shem Tov Let’s look at this from the context of an anxiety-ridden action, like asking for a raise. We may say, ” I can’t do it.” It’s
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Nagging is “See what you are not?” Support is “Look at all you can be.” In both cases, you want to help your spouse to become a better version of themselves. It’s your mindset and the words that come from that mindset that makes all the difference. Nagging comes from the mindset that you don’t
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Many people don’t ask for help because they don’t want to come across as needy or not fully in control. They have attached a negative judgment to needing and asking for help. What follows is that you judge someone to whom you offer help. In other words, if you feel superior or gain some level
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Own up to what you did to hurt someone. You lashed out, tell them, “You didn’t deserve that. I was cranky and I said words that I regret. I’m sorry.”
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Show your spouse how they have enriched your very being -how you became a better person because of them. “I am a better person because I am with you. You challenge and push me to do my best. You taught me to look at the world as …” “You are a great teacher. I learned
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