Sometimes they just want to vent, sometimes they want your insight and solutions. Listen in the way they want to be listened to. Don’t share possible solutions when all they want is a listening ear. If they don’t directly tell you what they want from the conversation, ask.💬“Do you want comfort or solutions?”💬“Do you want […]
Month: August 2022
Listening is the most powerful tool in relationships – Part 2/5
People may say they want to be listened to, but it’s really that they want to be understood. But too often, they are not fully saying what is going on for them – especially when they are under duress. Their behavior and their words may be masking the real reason for their distress, what they […]
Listening is the most powerful tool in relationships – Part 1/5
If we want to have a deep relationship with others, we have to listen to all the little things they want to share – even if they may seem trivial to us. How their day went, who they saw, something they heard. If they know that we listen to them about those things, when something […]
Vulnerability strengths your relationships – Part 5/5
For some people, sharing positive emotions takes vulnerability and courage too. Sometimes, we are uncomfortable expressing gratitude, appreciation or compliments because we’re not sure how to go about doing so. We struggle for the right words to express our feelings. We are concerned about how our words or actions will be received. And then somehow […]
Vulnerability strengths your relationships – Part 4/5
For some people, sharing positive emotions takes vulnerability and courage too. Sometimes, we are uncomfortable expressing gratitude, appreciation or compliments because we’re not sure how to go about doing so. We struggle for the right words to express our feelings. We are concerned about how our words or actions will be received. And then somehow […]
Vulnerability strengths your relationships – Part 3/5
Give yourself permission to lean on your partner. Of course, we are perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves, but one of the nice things about being married is that we don’t have to shoulder life all on our own. We can let our spouse take care of us once in a while. We don’t […]
Vulnerability strengths your relationships – Part 2/5
Vulnerability makes us human. A “Superman” or “Wonder Woman” persona can be alienating in relationships. It puts a wall between us and other people – making us seem untouchable and unrelatable. Vulnerability is crucial for intimacy. When we pull down our guard and allow our spouse in, we let them see our human and imperfect […]
Vulnerability strengths your relationships – Part 1/5
Vulnerability is consciously choosing to NOT hide our emotions, desires and opinions from others. It’s about not being overly concerned with protecting our ego and worrying about what others might think of us. It’s about letting our guard down and sharing the more tricky parts of ourselves. It’s about letting others see the real and […]
Thank and compliment your partner for a stronger relationship – Part 5/5
Look out for positives in your spouse. Find reasons to offer compliments, praise and gratitude. Consistently fan the sparks of positive feelings about your spouse. Constantly look out for things that your spouse is getting right or doing well. Try to notice the small things that each of you contributes to your life together. That […]
Thank and compliment your partner for a stronger relationship – Part 4/5
Acknowledge the person that they are. An expression of acknowledgment goes beyond the person’s action. It recognizes the person and their qualities and inner character that enabled them to do what they did. It’s a statement of “I see who you are!”It’s not about what someone has done, but rather who they were when they […]