Rock bottom is sometimes the wake-up call that finally pushes change. But what if you don’t actually need to hit bottom to make the change? What if the “bottom” can be brought up—or the whole idea of “bottom” isn’t necessary at all? What if you tuned into the quieter signs that things aren’t working as […]
Month: December 2025
Is Your Therapy Actually Helping You?
Getting a therapist is a big step. You’ve opened up about your challenges, hoping this will be a step forward—a way to feel better. You want it to work. The truth is: not every therapist is the right fit for every issue. A therapist may not have the training, experience, or approach that best matches […]
Change the Dance: Dealing with Conflict
Both partners want more peace… they just approach conflict with completely different instincts. One partner wants to slow down and explore what happened —how each person contributed, what went off-track, and what they can both learn to do differently next time. Their inner voice might say: “If we understand this, we can prevent it.” “We […]
Change The Dance: Pursuer–Withdrawer
Both partners are longing for connection… they’re just using opposite survival strategies. The pursuer senses distance and feels an urgent need to close the gap. They might think or say: “We need to talk.” “What’s going on?” “Don’t shut me out.” “I just want us to feel close again.” So they talk, probe, ask, push—trying […]
Change The Dance: The Overfunctioning–Underfunctioning
Both partners want things to go well… they just cope with life’s stress in opposite ways. The overfunctioner jumps into action—taking charge, solving problems, organizing, and anticipating everyone’s needs. Their inner voice might say: “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.” “I can’t let things fall apart.” “I’ll just handle it—it’s easier that […]
Is the Dance in Your Relationship Stuck?
A relationship is like a dance. One person moves a certain way, the other responds, and over time, a pattern develops. It doesn’t matter who started it—what matters is the rhythm you’ve created together. This happens in all parts of a relationship: during loving moments, disagreements, everyday routines, or when needing support. When the dance […]