This phrase is deflective and shuts down the conversation. It dismisses the other person’s interest or concern without addressing the topic, effectively preventing further discussion. This can stifle open communication, leaving the other person feeling unheard and disregarded. When said with a sinister tone, it can come across as highly controlling. When you feel like […]
Month: September 2025
Words to Avoid: “I have to…”
“I have to…” implies obligation or burden, framing tasks or responsibilities negatively. By shifting to “I get to…” instead, we reframe our thinking to focus on opportunity and gratitude. This simple change can foster a more positive outlook and appreciation for the tasks or activities we engage in. It transforms everyday actions into meaningful opportunities […]
Words to Avoid: “You just need to be more [understanding, positive].”
“You just need to be more [understanding, positive, forgiving]” is diminishing because it tells someone how they should feel or act. It can make the person feel like their emotions or actions aren’t valid. It’s especially dismissive when it’s used to justify your own actions. Of course, in a healthy relationship, spouses can gently guide […]