When someone helps you, expressing gratitude is not only polite but crucial for strengthening the connection and fostering mutual understanding. And it increases the likelihood that they will help you again. Let’s break down how to thank them using the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): (These are the elements to include, but you can change […]
Month: April 2024
Asking for help: Wording to use
The way we ask for help can significantly impact whether and how we receive assistance, as well as the quality of our relationships. When we approach others with empathy and clarity, stating our needs without judgment, it fosters a sense of cooperation, mutual respect, and understanding. The NVC (Non Violent Communication) model in asking for […]
Asking for help: How to ask for help
Feeling overwhelmed? Remember, it’s okay to ask for help. Here’s how: Don’t wait until you are overwhelmed or frantic (and possibly cranky). Ask early; this makes it easier for you to ask kindly and it is easier for the other person to be able to help you. Be clear about what help you need. Communicate […]
Asking for help: Why it feels so hard
Finding it hard to ask for help? You’re not alone. But here’s the thing – that reluctance to reach out can make dealing with the stress or task more difficult for you. And can also lead to isolation and even resentment. It may be worthwhile to reflect on why it’s so hard for you to […]
Respecting our differences
As two individuals with unique backgrounds and perspectives, it’s natural for us to see things differently. There’s no right or wrong way—just different ways of understanding the world around us. When your spouse shares an opinion that doesn’t align with yours, try to understand and empathize with their point of view. ➡️ Ask them to […]
Gratitude: Especially in Imperfection
In our pursuit of marital perfection (or at least something pretty great), we might fixate on our partner’s shortcomings. But what if we shifted our focus to gratitude for the wonderful qualities they do possess—even if they don’t align perfectly with our ideal image? When we reflect on the traits we genuinely admire—whether it’s their […]
Love eases differences
💡 When you genuinely love and enjoy your partner’s company, differences may matter less. You’ll find comfort in letting them be themselves, knowing that your connection is built on love and respect. While some differences may be significant and require discussion, many disagreements may not be as crucial as they seem. To strengthen your bond, […]
Respond to requests for change (4/4)
When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. These are ways that some people respond that is not helpful to the issue and definitely to the relationship. Don’t respond in these ways. ➡️ Don’t Invalidate: Don’t belittle […]
Respond to requests for change (3/4)
When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. These are ways that some people respond that is not helpful to the issue and definitely to the relationship. Don’t respond in these ways. ➡️ Don’t Stonewall: Don’t shut […]
Respond to requests for change (2/4)
When your spouse brings up concerns or requests for change, how you respond can impact the issue at hand. And even more so, your whole relationship. These are ways that some people respond that is not helpful to the issue and definitely to the relationship. Don’t respond in these ways. ➡️ Don’t Become Defensive: Don’t […]