Flawsome is a combination of the words “flaws” and “awesome”. Something that is totally awesome, but not without its flaws. We are all flawsome. We are awesome and wonderful even with all our flaws. Accept – no, celebrate – your flaws and be proud of them because nobody is perfect! There is no better feeling […]
Month: August 2020
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [08/30/2020]
3 Conversations you might have this week Is it really possible for people not to change after they get married? When you think back on this past summer, what are some highlights? Which would you rather: Being embarrassed in public or embarrassing someone else in public? 2 Quotes to inspire you “An empty tank will […]
New season: plan together
A new season is just upon us. Often that means new schedules for the kids, earlier sunsets and bedtimes. The upcoming holidays. These all need some planning to make sure that both of you (and the rest of the family) all are on the same page. Might one of you have to change your morning […]
Words to Avoid: “I had no choice”
We always have a choice, although some choices may indeed be very difficult. Seth Godin posits, “’I had no choice,’ actually means, ‘I had only one path that was easy in the moment.’” When someone uses the words “I had no choice”, they come off as a victim or defeatist who gave up their locus […]
Live from a Transformation Mindset
Someone with a ‘transformation mindset’ embraces change as a natural part of life. It may not be easy, but that doesn’t mean it is awful or insurmountable. With a transformation mindset, you can deal constructively with change. – Reflect on changes you have successfully adapted to in the past, and tell yourself: “I have successfully […]
Defer your need to be understood
Defer your need to be understood, long enough that your spouse is completely satisfied that you get their position. Your relationship is paramount. When you care about your spouse’s feelings before your own, you work to make sure that they feel heard – especially in a conflict or argument. Only at that point should you […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [08/23/2020]
3 Conversations you might have this week What do we spend a silly amount of money on? What does ‘self-care’ mean to you? What is a cause you would like to rally behind? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Your dark days make you strong. Or, maybe it is that you are already strong and those […]
Are you the best part of your spouse’s day?
How you come across to others is not so much about what you say or how you feel. It is so much more about how you make the other person feel about themselves in your presence. (affective presence) Are you the best part of your spouse’s day? Do you lift their spirits or make them […]
Life gets better when you do the hard things
It may be harder at this point, but if it is done, in the long run, things will be easier and better. It may be harder to put things away right now, but in the long run, you’ll be able to find what you are looking for and you will be in a better setting […]
Words to Avoid: “To be honest”
Often this phrase is used to preface that the next statement will be frank or blunt. Think of how these words might land on the listener:- It may leave them suspicious and concerned about what you will say next (albeit for just a few seconds). Noone likes that feeling, even if for a few nanoseconds. […]