Don’t compare your home/life to anyone else’s. Everyone has at least a small messy drawer somewhere. But you may not see it and they probably are not going to share about it publicly.
Month: March 2019
Stop and celebrate small wins.
Firstly, what exactly is a small win? This is an activity which you do successfully but weren’t sure you could actually pull off. Like cleaning a small pile or closet. Like getting rid of old stuff. A bunch of small wins equals significant change. Step by step. Notice it and get excited. Think back to […]
Don’t let the mess even get started.
It is far easier to KEEP your home clean than to have to try cleaning a messy house once it gets to the paralyzing mess stage. If your house is generally clean and then you have a kid’s birthday party and the house gets messy – that kind of mess is fairly easy to clean. […]
The mess won’t go away unless you do something about it.
Ignoring the mess doesn’t make it less of a mess. Neither does denial. Neither does wishing it away or hoping that someone else will take care of it. It doesn’t just get clean by itself. (‘Just point and junk disappears’ is just a marketing ploy from a junk removal company.) It may seem overwhelming. But […]
I love you but please change
Are you hoping that your spouse would consistently meet more of your needs, wants and desires? Instead of complaining, criticizing or withdrawing to try to get what you want from your spouse, how about asking? Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, M.S., LCPC discusses how you can effectively make requests for change from your spouse.
Use the best tools for the job.
There are so many tools and methods for cleaning. *Using the right tools can make the job so much easier and more effective.* The right sponge, scrubber or spray cleaner. Don’t just ‘make do’ with whatever tools you have at hand. It is worth investing in getting the best tool for the task. And once […]
Progress, not perfection.
Sometimes the project is so big, we don’t know what steps to take to get us there. The goal can seem overwhelming; we may feel we don’t have the know-how, time or the resources. Or we don’t see what steps we can take to get ourselves there. Oftentimes, this is because we set unrealistic expectations […]
Start with something small so you see some success quickly.
Thinking about all that needs to be done before Pesach can be overwhelming, and thus demotivating. So many areas need to be tackled. When we start small, we can plan early successes that will inspire us and motivate us and encourage us to keep going. Start with one manageable corner, a small closet, a drawer. […]
A Joyful Pesach
Pesach. Wonderful family time and new family memories. For some, it is a time of family stress and misery :(. Stress can prevent our ability to focus and it promotes negative thinking. When stressed, we are irritable. Argumentative. Grumpy. We lash out. Perceive everything as a slight. Get miffed extra easily. Stress can also impair […]
You want help? Just ask.
Most likely, people are not going to just see your need and offer to it on their own. If you want assistance in doing something, just ask. Don’t wish or hope they’ll volunteer. Don’t hint at it. That just leads to disappointment. Ask outright.