Talking about someone whom you admire the most can help you to reflect upon your life and what values you hold. Discuss what you admire and what you learned about your values. Who is someone you admire? What are some attributes that the person has that you admire? What about those traits is so admirable to […]
Month: May 2021
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [05/30/2021]
3 Conversations you might have this week What do you think of when you hear the word “safe”? What would be the first thing you’d do if time machines existed? What would you say if the world is actually listening? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Failure is not the opposite of success; it’s part of […]
Distance yourself from your stress.
Reframe how you deal with stress. Observe your stress – without judgment. Instead of saying, “I am so stressed!”, say, “I am noticing that I am feeling overwhelmed.” This tiny mindshift puts a little bit of distance between you and the feeling. It loosens the grip of stress and then you can better handle the situation.
Your spouse can’t be your everything.
No one person can meet another person’s every need. Don’t put that expectation on yourself. Or on your spouse. That is too much pressure on each of you and the relationship. Allow your spouse to have other people in their lives. Encourage them to have friendships, get advice from others, spend time with family too. […]
Words to Use: “I am so happy to be married to you.”
Say this with a compliment about your spouse. You can add how your life was enriched because of them. End with “And that’s why I am so happy to be married to you.” – “I love that when you come home after work, you first look for me even before going to the kids. I […]
Create secret codes that you both understand.
Use codes to send a message without having to say it directly. You might use a hand signal or head nod. You might use a certain word or phrase. This comes in handy when you are with other people. You might also use such codes when you are alone as an inside joke. Or when […]
#13 Talk about Accomplishments
There is pleasure in delighting in each other’s happiness and accomplishments. One of the best ways to show your spouse you really care is to go out of your way to celebrate good things that happen to them. Celebrating success boosts self esteem and the morale for both of you. Knowing each other’s strengths also deepens […]
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [05/23/2021]
3 Conversations you might have this week What is a risk you took that paid off? Would you rather have better answers or better questions? What is a favorite BBQ food? Or something new you want to try this summer season? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Life is an adventure that is best lived boldly.” […]
For a thriving relationship, understand and respect your differences.
Your spouse IS different from you. It might be easier if your spouse felt like you, thought like you, had the same needs and personality. But they never will. And that’s a good thing. You complement each other’s strengths and limitations. You are exposed to different perspectives and styles. You are introduced to new interests […]
Receiving is giving.
Your spouse genuinely wants to give and do for you. They want to make your life easier and more pleasant. Without expecting anything in return. Receive their gift to you. Accept it graciously. Delight in their giving. – Allowing yourself to receive from others is a gift to the giver. And to yourself. For the […]