Some people withhold the truth (or even straight out lie) because they want to avoid some pain or discomfort. But without honesty, there can not be intimacy and closeness. Sometimes we are not open or honest because we want to avoid the pain that may come from the truth. Sometimes it is from trying to […]
Month: January 2022
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [1/30/2022]
3 Conversations you might have this week How have we each pointed the other in the right direction? What “How To” book could we use right now? Our best time in the rain was when… 2 Quotes to inspire you “If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.” “Kind words can be short […]
The Balcony Perspective: Getting the fuller picture.
Sometimes when you are in a situation it can be very difficult for you to see the whole picture. You only see your part. However, if you choose instead to see the drama unfold from the balcony view up high, you will be able to not only understand what is going on in front of […]
Get more comfortable with failure.
Every successful habit is built with some failures along the way. When starting something new, you won’t get it right every time. Like a baby taking their first steps. But don’t give up after those first clumsy, awkward attempts or failures. Our success at adopting a new habit depends on our willingness to be bad […]
Words to avoid: “You’re the problem…”
In most situations, both people have contributed to the problem in some way. We often blame our partners for our relationship distress, which may or may not be valid. Maybe it’s time to take a closer look in the mirror to see if your own behavior contributes to the problems. If you are facing a […]
Clarity about what matters provides clarity about what does not.
“Clarity about what matters provides clarity about what does not.” ― Cal Newport Identify what matters to you individually, as a couple, as a family. Write down your passion statements. What really matters to you? What do you really want to do, and why do you really want to do it? What about that is […]
Speak positively about your marriage. Often.
Speak positively about your marriage. Often. Very often. To each other, to others, in public (appropriately). What we praise grows. Praise the time you’ve been together so far. Praise the life and home you have built together. Praise the tough times you’ve overcome together. The easy times. The happy times. Praise how your differences work […]
Am I Ready for Marriage?
Marriage is a big step in life and you want to make sure you are ready for the commitment and responsibility of a marriage relationship. Dr. Debbie Akerman shares some important points to think about as you prepare for marriage.
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [1/23/2022]
3 Conversations you might have this week If there were 26 hours in a day, what would you do more of? Have you ever had a deep conversation with a perfect stranger? What was the topic? Can you follow Ikea instructions? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Though no one can go back and make a […]
How clearly we see determines how effectively we act in any situation.
Clarity determines the quality of your response to a situation. But too often in a stressful situation, we develop some sort of brain fog that impedes us from seeing the fullness of the situation and the possibilities and the long-term outcomes of knee-jerk reactions. It is hard to gain perspective when you are stressed. First, […]