Appearance is a big draw for many people, so is intelligence, income, profession – and, for some reason, a sense of humor. By all means factor these into your decision about a marriage partner. But never forget that those features are not what will determine the success of your marriage. Above all else, character is […]
Realize that character traits are the most important. Read More »
It is not uncommon for people to give unsolicited advice, and it is not unusual for people to give opinions about matters they have little expertise – but it does seem that when it comes to dating this reaches a whole new level. Whatever people’s motivation for expressing a view, they are often not helping
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Dating can get complicated. Most people would benefit from guidance. Few of us are so well equipped with wisdom and experience that we can proceed through the entire dating process without the benefit of guidance and support. Maybe she is on the quiet side, and you are trying to figure out how to bring her
From whom to take guidance. Read More »
Dating can take two strangers who just recently had never even heard of each other, to become inseparable. Two people who have never met now want to spend the rest of their lives together. This does not happen in one leap. The dating pair go through several stages in the process, even if the time
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It is normal that even successful dating will be accompanied by some degree of disappointment, as it is almost impossible to find someone who is 100% what you prefer. However, some people are affected by what we call “The Rollercoaster syndrome,” which makes this a much more extreme process. Such people begin the dating by
Coping with disappointment in dating: The Rollercoaster syndrome. Read More »
Why should anyone feel the need to do so? There are two divergent reasons, which are the basis for the two distinct types of double dating. There are people who are eager to get married. There are quite a number of reasons why someone may consider that double dating would be a good idea. This
Is there anything wrong with dating two people at the same time? Read More »
Some people experience rejection not merely as a (sometimes bitter) disappointment, but a very personal attack on their value as a human being. Rejection often feels worse than it usually is. Knowing this could help keep things in perspective. Recognize that most people experience rejection. Knowing that does not make it less painful, but it
When dating does not work out, I take rejection very personally. Read More »
Taking a break during dating is often a cop out and will not achieve anything. Most doubts or uncertainties regarding your dating partner are best resolved through interacting with your date or by getting sage advice from those in the know. However, there are unique situations when a break would be helpful. The first is
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For a variety of reasons, people may feel pressure to form a relationship and get married. It may be demands from the family, personal loneliness, or the person getting older. This may push us into ignoring our own wishes and needs just to find someone to settle down with. That is not the way to
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Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much as some other things. It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage and life. But ultimately, you are contemplating marrying an individual. Of course, the influence of the person’s family is a factor. Nonetheless, more important is the person’s own journey
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