Some people have what is known as an “anxious attachment orientation”, which means that they hold on extra tight to the person they are attached to. They are likely to want to constantly be in contact with their love-interest, want to know exactly where they are all the time, and react poorly when their date […]
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Some people are great with dating until things turn serious. Once it becomes clear that things could go all the way with this person, a range of anxieties can kick in. Some people have a terrible fear of commitment, whilst others become obsessive once they feel attached to a person, and the list goes on.
Why dating can begin well and become difficult later. Read More »
Ideally, you meet someone who is a great fit, you connect well with them, and are excited to have found someone with whom you can have a wonderful life. I wish this on everyone. However, a significant portion of people will find that whoever they meet, it is a struggle. This could be for some
A date can be both difficult and successful – there is no inherent contradiction. Read More »
You are dating someone you get along with great. You feel great affection towards him; but despite numerous dates, you do not seem to be able to work up any kind of real passion for him. The situation is highly frustrating for you because you would love to feel differently about him and the emotions
I really care for her, so why can’t I feel that passionate love? Read More »
Make sure that what you have is (the beginnings of) real love, not infatuation. Marriage is true long-term deal, so it is vital that your decision is based on the factors that will greatly add to your chances of a long and happy union. Your guiding principles in how you make this decision matter greatly.
Know the difference between love and infatuation. Read More »
Even if we consider ourselves good-looking and are proud of our appearance, we feel cheapened when other people are overly focused on our external appearance instead of our inner worth. It is worth remembering that “men will be men,” and so long as it is not extreme it is not necessarily a problem, depending on
I feel all he is interested in are my looks. Read More »
This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The
Do you get stuck in the transition from “me” to “we”? Read More »
Even if we consider ourselves good-looking and are proud of our appearance, we feel cheapened when other people are overly focused on our external appearance instead of our inner worth. It is worth remembering that “men will be men,” and so long as it is not extreme it is not necessarily a problem, depending on
I feel all he is interested in are my looks. Read More »
The person you are dating says: “I still do not know how I feel about the relationship, but I really like you and want to keep going and see where it takes us”? How do you respond at this point? Some things to consider: Where in the dating process is this request coming; has overall
He says “I am not ready, let’s continue dating”. Should I agree? Read More »
This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The
Do you get stuck in the transition from “me” to “we”? Read More »
