Even if we consider ourselves good-looking and are proud of our appearance, we feel cheapened when other people are overly focused on our external appearance instead of our inner worth. It is worth remembering that “men will be men,” and so long as it is not extreme it is not necessarily a problem, depending on what you are looking for.
Whether he can engage in meaningful conversation may be the more important question. If he is almost entirely interested in your appearance, then something seems wrong. If he is dismissive about your views or goals, that is a clear red flag.
It would be ironic, however, for someone to complain about excessive interest in her appearance whilst herself dressing in a manner that seems designed to draw excessive attention to that very aspect.
