Some people see dating as looking to see if there is full agreement between the parties. The minute they hit upon some area of disagreement, they feel disappointed. Instead of raising their concern with their dating partner, they express their frustration to their parents, shadchan, coach, etc. Unless the gap is felt to be truly […]
Don’t avoid uncomfortable topics; that’s what dating is for. Read More »
It is difficult to assess compatibility in the absence of criteria. Having a clear list of priorities against which to measure suitability will help you make your decision with confidence. You may not know what you really need in a life-partner until you actually spend time dating process. Your dating experiences will teach you a
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If you need to disclose sensitive information, it is important that you handle the process in a way that will cause the least damage. While each situation is clearly different, there are some common principles. It is advisable to give off a realistic portrayal of life from the outset and weave into that the factors
Some people experience rejection not merely as a (sometimes bitter) disappointment, but a very personal attack on their value as a human being. Rejection often feels worse than it usually is. Knowing this could help keep things in perspective. Recognize that most people experience rejection. Knowing that does not make it less painful, but it
When dating does not work out, I take rejection very personally. Read More »
You’ve been dating someone for a few times. You’ve both shared about yourselves and know quite a bit about each other. And then you determine that this person is not for you, and you want to end the relationship. Remember, this is a vulnerable time for both of you. How you end the relationship should be done with dignity and respect – for both of your sakes.
End a shidduch with dignity. Read More »
It would be more advisable to give off a more realistic portrayal of life from the outset, and weave into that the factors that will make your weakness seem less threatening. You can provide context of your life that will make it easy for your date to see how you deal with and manage your issue.
I have sensitive information to reveal: how can I do this while causing least damage? Read More »
A girls meets a guy and is super excited about his date. This excitement remains at implausible levels for a few dates… until cracks appear in the image of perfection.
Coping with disappointment in dating: The Rollercoaster syndrome. Read More »
Dating can leave some people feeling nervous, anxious, and worried. This impedes the dating process and makes it harder for both parties. The good news is that it is much less frightening than it seems.
I am painfully quiet and find dating worrying and challenging. Read More »
There are people who struggle with the very first dates. The communication skills for the first dates are different than most other communication; and some people find this difficult. These skills can be learned.
Why the first few dates are so important. Read More »
