Of course, you are perfectly capable of taking care of yourself, but one of the nice things about being married is that you don’t have to shoulder life all on your own. Let your spouse take care of you once in a while. You don’t have to do it alone. Your spouse wants what is […]
Give yourself permission to lean on your partner. Read More »
You don’t have to do it all to have it all. Get the support and help you need. Even if it means you have to ask for it directly. It may feel like strength to be able to do everything ourselves. We may even get a momentary high feeling like we’ve proven something or shown
If you need help, just ask. Read More »
Admitting a wrong-doing generally isn’t easy — especially when doing so means acknowledging that you hurt someone you care about. When an apology is absent or it’s a bad apology, it puts a crack in the very foundation of a relationship. Take responsibility for your actions/ words, and admit it in your apology. Don’t make
How to apologize the right way. Read More »
In life, lots of things go differently than we had expected or hoped. There will be unexpected events, expenses, and situations. It’s important for partners to understand and anticipate that as part of life. And since we can’t really anticipate anything, we must therefore react with flexibility. If we are too rigid and we resist
Flexibility keeps stress levels down. Read More »
Use gratitude to counter stress and uncertainty. When we take time to focus on what we are grateful for, we are choosing positive emotions over negative. When we express gratitude, our brain releases dopamine and serotonin — two hormones that make us feel lighter and happier inside. Gratitude grounds us and is a great way to
Gratitude counters stress. Read More »
“The key is not to prioritize your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey What do you care about most in your life? Whatever it may be, make sure you are making it a priority. (You could say everything is a priority. But, if that were the case, nothing would be a priority.)
Schedule your priorities. Read More »
Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, anger, frustration, sadness….so many of these negative emotions all stem from the fact that two people don’t talk to each other about things. By not talking it through, you aren’t giving the other person a chance to share what is going on for them, what support they need, their fears, their intentions.
When we blame others, we may experience a brief instant of relief. It feels better to no longer be in the crosshairs, the target of criticism, punishment, or harm. And it can help us avoid questioning our own self-worth and worthiness. In the short term. But then, come feelings of guilt and regret and possibly
If you blame other people for your mistakes, you give away your chances to learn. Read More »
“Assuming” is accepting something as true – without proof. It is deciding a thought you are having is a fact – when you don’t have all the information. Assumptions can be quite detrimental – especially when you make choices and decisions based on little more than a good (or not so good) guess. Too often,
Assumptions often lead to poor decisions. Read More »
If you are not getting the outcomes you want (or hope for), maybe it’s something you are doing (or not doing). Get to know your patterns that are not getting you the outcomes you are hoping for and take tiny steps to change those. If you don’t ask for what you want and instead hint,
Not getting what you want? Maybe it’s you. Read More »
