Who you talk to during dating can make a difference
Talking about shidduchim can get very personal and intimate. That’s why you need a trusted ‘outsider’ to speak to.
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“Pressure-Cooker” Shidduch Time
as posted on COLlive.com Yossi and Leah Yossi had summer plans that he was very excited about. First, he would spend 5 weeks as head counselor in a Gan Yisroel and then a few weeks of traveling to help Shluchim in some farflung, exotic destinations. He had worked out all the details months ago. He
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I hear he’s a nice guy, but has rough edges.
Q: I hear he’s a nice guy and has similar values and goals as my daughter, but he has rough edges. She’s so sensitive and sweet. Someone like that will just run all over her. So the question is should I even let her meet him at all? A: Firstly, what is meant by ‘rough
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Plan your Date
I’m not talking about planning where to go and when, and what to wear and when to eat. That’s a whole different planning. On each date, you will share some about yourself and find out some about the other person. And you may also want to follow up on something you said or heard on
How people get engaged to the ‘wrong person’
Of course, everything happens for a reason. Broken engagements and divorces, R”L, are all part of Hashem’s plan. Let’s try to understand how some mismatched people commit to marriage. That awareness can be helpful in avoiding that for yourself. Here we share several common enough relationship traps. Not to scare you… just something to think about.
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Make it comfortable for the other to open up
When dating for marriage, there are some important topics that must be discussed. These may be difficult for some people, and they may have a harder time sharing, asking, being vulnerable. It is important not to avoid the topics because of that uncomfortability. You gotta be patient. And make it comfortable to open up. Your body
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The right person to marry will depend almost totally on who you are
During shiduchim, you are seeking a match for you. If you don’t really know who you are, you may end up with a fine person – but not the best match for you. Before you bring someone into your life, it is important to figure out what your life is all about. What are your values? What
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List of ‘can’t stand’s
Make a (short) list of personality traits that really bug you. Yeah, one day you’ll work on yourself so they don’t bug you all that much. But for now, you really don’t like being around people who do that often. Some examples might be: tries to seem more important than he really is; works too
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On a date, be other-conscious, not self- conscious
There are only a certain number of brain cells you can use during a date. Being self-conscious limits your ability to express yourself fully. It also limits your ability to be fully aware. If you are using too many brain cells trying to impress or being self conscious, you really can’t get to know the other person.
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