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Does family really matter when it comes to a shidduch?

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You may marry “into” a family, but you are not marrying “the” family. People should be assessed on their own merit. At the same time, it is important to know what to try to understand about the family’s role on the person themselves. What type of parenting or family life did they have? How have they dealt with adversity in their upbringing? And, how important is a close connection to your spouse’s family?

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Recognizing controlling tendencies.

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Controlling behavior is when one person expects, compels, or requires others to cater to their own needs — even at others’ expense. Generally, people are on their best behavior during dating. So it is especially important to really tune in and pay attention to the following questions during the dating. There are RED FLAGS of controlling tendencies.

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The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it?

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The question of whether to consider dating or marrying someone who has a psychological problem is one of the most difficult relationship matters. The consequences could be enormous, and there is also a great deal of confusion and fear surrounding this issue. The purpose of this article is to offer some clarity to help you to make a thoughtful decision as to what is in your best interest.

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He says “I am not ready, let’s continue dating”. Should I agree?

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Where is the request to continue the dating process coming from? Has overall compatibility been established? What do they say they need clarity on?

Especially important Is to be clear between the two of you as to what kind of clarity is to be gained during the next dates.

Set a goal and a timeframe. Not an ultimatum. Don’t pressure.

Sometimes, people get stuck. It is worthwhile to get professional support in making a decision.

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Are you frightened by the difference of opinion?

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In a marriage, there will be a healthy exchange of views and even differences of opinion. The unanimity of everything is no great sign of a perfect relationship. Dating is in a sense a mini-marriage, so getting a sense of how you can resolve differences is an important step in the transition towards true couplehood.

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