You may return from a date with your head spinning? He said he didn’t like his job, is that an issue? She said she doesn’t get along with her mother, should I be concerned? The way he spoke about his time in Yeshiva left me with an uncomfortable feeling; is that anything to go by? […]
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It is a wonderful quality to be tolerant and accepting of others, but when it comes to dating this has its limits. As much as you might like the other person, don’t try to excuse the inexcusable. If she behaves in an extremely selfish manner, don’t imagine this won’t happen in the marriage. If he
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Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much as some other things. It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage and life. But ultimately, you are contemplating marrying an individual. Of course, the influence of the person’s family is a factor. Nonetheless, more important is the person’s own journey
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Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much as some other things. It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage and life. But ultimately, you are contemplating marrying an individual. Of course, the influence of the person’s family is a factor. Nonetheless, more important is the person’s own journey
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Psychological problems can cause enormous difficulties in a relationship, but there is also excessive fear and confusion around the issue. Just because someone is diagnosed with a mental disorder does not mean they can’t be in a normal, happy and very functional relationship. You may miss a chance to be with an amazing person in
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If you are told that a potential shidduch has a medical condition, it is reasonable for you to be apprehensive. Health is a very important issue. However, it is only one of many important issues married couples have to deal with. There are three sets of questions that you should ask to help you decide
Finding out about a medical condition. Read More »
Even if we consider ourselves good-looking and are proud of our appearance, we feel cheapened when other people are overly focused on our external appearance instead of our inner worth. It is worth remembering that “men will be men,” and so long as it is not extreme it is not necessarily a problem, depending on
“I feel all he is interested in are my looks”. Read More »
Someone may be “stuck”. While they are dating someone they really like and get along with excellently, they are struggling with the idea of proposing because some things bother them. It may seem obvious that it is out of the question to commit to marrying someone you still have doubts about. Would that not lead
I feel very strongly drawn to my date, but some things bother me. Read More »
There are two types of anger issues – and they are worlds apart. There are feisty people who are prone to raise their voices, get strongly animated, and occasionally get carried away. They may use overly forceful language to make their point, being unnecessarily argumentative, and refusing to back down from an argument. Many people
The person I am dating has an anger issue, what should I do? Read More »
If you are told that a potential shidduch has a medical condition, it is reasonable for you to be apprehensive. Health is a very important issue, but it is only one of many important issues. Take the time to understand the facts of the matter, which often show things in a different light. And remember to consider the whole person, and not reduce them to their area of difficulty.
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