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What Are You Committing To? Some pointers for discussion

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Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction. Often this is because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. They want the closeness, but they are not ready to be tied down. So they treat dating like a game. You can tell a player by the very dramatic gap between their nice manner and their dismissive attitude towards the relationship.

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Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.

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In shidduch dating, both parties come to the table with a clear goal in mind: marriage. However, there is a small percentage of people – we call them “players” – who have a habit of treating dating a bit like a game. They seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want

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Player Syndrome: How dating can be too much about fun.

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Some people treat dating only or mostly as a game, and seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction. Often this is because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. They want the closeness, but they are not ready to be tied down. So they treat dating like a game. You can tell a player by the very dramatic gap between their nice manner and their dismissive attitude towards the relationship.

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Do you have an “avoidance issue”?

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You may find that there always is something that prevents you from reaching the engagement stage. Repeatedly you find that something impossible to ignore is bothering you, and you feel utterly unable to contemplate marriage. The idea of proposing or accepting a proposal for marriage fill you with dread. Each time, it seems that this

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Are you afraid of getting close?

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Are you fine dating until the point where the dating turns “serious?” As soon as you sense that you have crossed over into “commitment territory,” all kinds of issues come to the fore and not from the most positive perspective? You most likely consider this rethinking and reevaluating completely understandable, as you have now got

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I like the person I am dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter.

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This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The

I like the person I am dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter. Read More »

I like the person I am dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter.

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This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The

I like the person I am dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter. Read More »

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