In shidduch dating, both parties come to the table with a clear goal in mind: marriage. However, there is a small percentage of people – we call them “players” – who have a habit of treating dating a bit like a game. They seem resistant to developing a meaningful emotional connection and do not want to take the relationship in a serious direction.
Most likely, this is done because of an ambivalent relationship orientation. Such people would like a close bond, but they struggle with giving up their independence. So, they try to hover in an in-between mode. Of course, this is unworkable. It also causes a great deal of heartbreak. It is helpful to know the signs of this phenomenon. If this pattern emerges, it is vital to address it.