You can not be able control all the rude or dumb things people say and do. You can decide not to be distracted or controlled by them. You can’t control what others think of you. Even if you follow all of the “rules” and do everything “right”, how others respond to you is outside of […]
People say inappropriate things, leave that on them. Read More »
Disagreements are inevitable. But, there’s definitely a wrong way and a right way to present your own arguments.–Focus on facts and don’t make it personal. A respectful disagreement is one that prioritizes logic over your opinions and emotions about the situation. Staying to facts makes it clear that it isn’t personal. Focus on illustrating why
You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have to be respectful. Read More »
You may be able to function quite well on your own, and it may be true that you don’t need them in the survival sense. Still, everyone likes to feel wanted and needed. Most often when someone says this, they are saying it due to some strong emotion, like anger. Saying this can cause the
Words to Avoid: “I don’t need you.” Read More »
Consistently fan the sparks of positive feelings about your spouse. When a couple makes a full and conscious effort to notice things they like about each other and then express those out loud to each other, their relationship is enriched. Constantly look out for things that your spouse is getting right or doing well. Try
Look out for positives in your spouse. Read More »
Within every complaint, there is a request. It is important to be able to discern that request and not get caught up in the noise around it. Focus your energy on hearing what your partner is saying, or trying to say, and respond to that need.• A complaint about the garbage might really be about
Complaints are really a need or longing that is not happening. Read More »
3 Conversations you might have this week 1. What is a dream you had of marriage that isn’t happening as you dreamed? 2. What is a food you just got to taste (or like)? 3. What’s the most out-of-character thing you’ve ever done? 2 Quotes to inspire you “What’s the solution, not what’s the excuse?”
Adai Ad’s Weekly 3-2-1 [3/06/2022] Read More »
We know that unreasonable expectations or the thoughts that expectations are not being met can lead to insecure feelings on the part of both of the couple. These can topple the relationship. It is also important to recognize that sometimes even reasonable expectations may not be met. It’s life and things happen. Your spouse may
Sometimes, even reasonable expectations may not be met. Read More »
Asking questions: The right questions can empower you. The wrong ones drag you down. “Why can’t I bring myself to do what I need to move forward?” Such a question is disempowering and will drag you down. Flip the question to a more positive one. “In what ways am I courageous?” Questions compel us to
Asking the right questions can empower you. Read More »
Rabbi Pinney Herman speaks with Yeshaya Kraus, LCSW of Shalom Task Force and Tzvi Wesson, LCSW-R of Ohel about the issues of domestic abuse.
For more on this topic, see:
When Someone Approaches you about Domestic Abuse – with Dovid Kohn, LCSW, CASAC
For First Supporters: When Someone Approaches about Domestic Abuse Read More »
Never compare your partner to someone else. Instead of comparing others’ lives against yours, focus on being grateful and appreciative for who they are and their unique qualities.
Words to Avoid: “Why can’t you be more like ____” Read More »
