Hard conversations are uncomfortable. But avoiding them only adds weight to unresolved issues. The more we push things under the rug, the heavier it gets and the harder it will be to clean up the mess. ✨ Why we avoid hard conversations:• Fear of conflict or judgment• Wanting to protect feelings (ours or theirs) But […]
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This is deflecting.Instead of staying with what’s being brought up, this phrase flips the focus to their behavior — dodging your own accountability. It might feel like self-protection in the moment, but deflecting shuts down honest, connected conversation. And ultimately, the relationship. Pause and ask yourself:✨ What feels uncomfortable right now? ✨ What part of
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It’s easy to get caught up in small disagreements, like the way the toothpaste is squeezed or how the towels are folded. But often, these little things aren’t the real issue—they’re just the trigger. What’s really going on is something deeper, like feeling unheard, unappreciated, or disconnected. The small irritations are usually a reflection of
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This simple line shares your inner world.You are sharing it as your perspective—not the ultimate truth.You’re not stating it as a fact or making an accusation—just naming the way something lands for you. 💛 “The story I tell myself when you bring me coffee is that you want to make me smile.” It works for
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When your spouse shares their hurt, frustration, or pain about something you’ve done, the first thing they need isn’t a defense or explanation—it’s your empathy. In the moment, they need to feel understood, that you recognize the impact of your actions. Getting defensive or immediately jumping into your side of the story can shut down
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Using the phrase “This is what I’m thinking” shows that you’ve put thought into the situation and that you’re offering your perspective in an open, non-defensive way. It’s a great way to introduce an idea or a plan while also showing that you’re open to hearing the other person’s thoughts and willing to adjust if
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It’s easy to get caught up in small disagreements, like the way the toothpaste is squeezed or how the towels are folded. But often, these little things aren’t the real issue—they’re just the trigger. What’s really going on is something deeper, like feeling unheard, unappreciated, or disconnected. The small irritations are usually a reflection of
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When dividing tasks, it’s important to approach it as a shared responsibility, not as one person helping the other. Offering to take on certain tasks with the phrase “I’ll tackle that” signals both willingness and collaboration. However, tone matters—saying it with enthusiasm and a positive attitude is key. Don’t say it begrudgingly or as if
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As Pesach approaches, the usual routines can get thrown off with the added tasks, errands, and demands on your schedule. It’s easy for the stress to pile up. That’s why it’s so important to talk out the details and decide who will handle what. Collaborating on the preparations not only ensures that everything gets done
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You don’t have to have an answer the moment a question is asked. Sometimes, you really do need to think about it—and that’s okay. Saying something like “That’s a good question. Let me think about it.” gives you space to reflect while also showing respect for the other person and the topic. It signals that
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