Don’t settle for second best
Know your priorities and stick to those.
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End a Shidduch with dignity.
If you are clear that this shidduch is not going to work out, it is best to bring it to a close without delay. Going on another few dates, or even keeping the other person on a date for another couple of hours “in order to be nice” is inappropriate. If you have only met
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He says “I am not ready, let’s continue dating”. Should I agree?
The person you are dating says: “I still do not know how I feel about the relationship, but I really like you and want to keep going and see where it takes us”? How do you respond at this point? Some things to consider: Where in the dating process is this request coming; has overall
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He says “I am not ready, let’s continue dating”. Should I agree?
The person you are dating says: “I still do not know how I feel about the relationship, but I really like you and want to keep going and see where it takes us”? How do you respond at this point? Some things to consider: Where in the dating process is this request coming; has overall
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Conflicting and confused priorities.
Without realizing it, some people are actually looking for opposites in a single person – which may explain why things are not going so well. It is not impossible for those differing traits to exist in one person, but that is quite rare, and often brings its own problems. It is usually wiser to choose
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Conflicting and confused priorities.
Without realizing it, some people are actually looking for opposites in a single person – which may explain why things are not going so well. It is not impossible for those differing traits to exist in one person, but that is quite rare, and often brings its own problems. It is usually wiser to choose
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Should I take a break?
Taking a break during dating is often a cop out and will not achieve anything. Most doubts or uncertainties regarding your dating partner are best resolved through interacting with your date or by getting sage advice from those in the know. However, there are unique situations when a break would be helpful. The first is
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What is attachment? And why is it important?
What is attachment? Many of us are inclined to form adult relationships that are what psychologists call “poorly attached,” which could cause us to experience difficulties in dating. For example, you may find that there is always something that prevents you from reaching the commitment stage. Repeatedly you find that something impossible to ignore is
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Don’t avoid uncomfortable topics; that’s what dating is for.
Some people see dating as looking to see if there is full agreement between the parties. The minute they hit upon some area of disagreement, they feel disappointed. Instead of raising their concern with their dating partner, they express their frustration to their parents, shadchan, coach, etc. Unless the gap is felt to be truly
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I have sensitive information to reveal: How can I do this while causing the least damage?
If you need to disclose sensitive information, it is important that you handle the process in a way that will cause the least damage. While each situation is clearly different, there are some common principles. It is advisable to give off a realistic portrayal of life from the outset and weave into that the factors