A time-out is a “pause in the action” for the purpose of stepping back, looking at the situation more objectively, planning a strategy and asking for help. Then, once you exercise your time-out, you are able to bring your most calm, productive and patient self to the problem. The time-out can be just a few […]
Not only does comparing ourselves to others steal our happiness, it adds more stress, worry and regret. Comparison is corrosive. It eats away our ability to be content and confident. It is a poison that kills the love we have for ourselves. Often, we see only the best from other people’s lives and contrast that
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(Think about a ‘grace period’ for late payments). Showing grace is going out of your way to give your compassion, kindness and love to someone even if they might not appreciate it, or return the favor. Even if they haven’t ‘earned it’ or deserve it. It is accepting and allowing someone to be who they
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The goal is not to be better than others or to prove that you are right. Rather, work to continuously improve yourself. When we have a fixed mindset, we try to prove ourselves so we can win. We dig in our heels to show that we were right. We look for data to prove that
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Fishing for compliments is about trying to get people say good things about you. Sometimes, people fish for compliments because their achievement has gone unnoticed and they hope to subtly bring attention to their success. Often, it’s pretending to be modest about something and hope they disagree and give you praise. It’s intentionally saying self-deprecating
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Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset. It can sound like “Don’t worry. It will work out.”, “Think happy thoughts.” “Everything happens for a reason.”, “At least [something worse] didn’t happen.”, “Just get over it.”, “It’s not that serious.” These minimize
All feelings are valid. Avoid toxic positivity. Read More »
Great things never came from comfort zones. We achieve our goals by stretching our capabilities and skills in ways we never thought we could. It won’t be comfortable, but that’s when the growth happens. This leads to satisfaction and increased self-confidence.
A comfort zone is a beautiful place. But nothing ever grows there. Read More »
Sometimes, we hold onto a dream that just won’t happen, like waiting for someone to give the attention or love in the way that we crave. It’s futile. It’s like sitting at the bus stop for a bus that doesn’t pass there. We can wait and wait. We might even see buses pass by. Just
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If you want to be doing something different in your life, just start acting like that. Eventually, it becomes your identity – what you believe and do. When you act from your identity, then the habits really last. What is something you’d like to do successfully? A healthy lifestyle, spend more time with your children,
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Life has its painful moments; it is unavoidable. But suffering is up to us. Suffering is brought on by fretting and ruminating and nonacceptance. It is our thoughts such as: “Why me?!” “It isn’t fair!” “This is horrible!” “I can’t stand it!” that bring more misery and damage than the actual situation. We can live
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