When someone asks you “How are you?” do you answer “Things are (Boruch Hashem) fine”? Life can be amazing, why stop at “fine”? What is the mindset behind the word “fine”? “Fine” is about staying with status quo even though what you really want is something more. It is settling for less than you really […]
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If someone (or several people) isn’t listening to your ideas or taking you seriously, instead of getting upset, reflect about why are they are not taking you seriously. It could be something about them. They might not have faith in themselves and they are projecting that back at you. It might be something about you
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As soon as we wake, we say מודה אני. Thankful am I. The very first word of my day is מודה, gratitude. I start the day in gratitude to Hashem for a new day, full of fresh opportunities. Only after grounding my day in gratitude, do I mention אני, myself. Once I have established the
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Your past, no matter how bad it was, no matter what mistakes you made, does not define your future. You are not your past. The choices and actions you make today will ultimately define who you will eventually become. Make the decision to learn from your past and apply it in the present and have
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Instead of making an assumption or jumping to conclusions about something your spouse said or did, be curious. You’ll get a more accurate understanding of what is going on. And it will deepen your relationship. Curiosity leads to deeper understanding of one another. Curiosity helps both of you grow. By asking and answering questions, you
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Are you subconsciously in some sort of competition with your spouse? Do you sometimes have this need to be ‘better’ than them? Is it possible that in some area you try to one-up your spouse? Or even try to sabotage their growth? Do you accentuate or highlight one of their limitations or weaknesses (especially in
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Something in your life isn’t going as you wish and you are feeling badly about that. In some circumstances, feeling badly can be helpful and productive. It’s about how you are doing your feeling bad: is it directed at the past or to the future? Feeling remorse or regret is future- and change-oriented; it can
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Negative thoughts about the past are not helpful and yet sometimes we indulge in them anyway. Sometimes, we would rather wallow in these despairing thoughts instead of trying to resolve the issue. It just seems easier and more comfortable to cry and kvetch than put in the work to make the change. It takes time
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The word decide has its origins in Latin. The “de” means “off” and “cide” means “cut” or “kill”. When you decide, you are essentially cutting off all other options and sticking with the one that matters most to you. Once you decide, the important part is you must commit to it. Truly commit. Then you
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Don’t just go through life, grow through life. Everyone will experience defeat or adversity at one time or another. Hashem intends for us to grow and gain strength, understanding and wisdom through struggle. Every adversity, every failure and every unpleasant experience carries within it the seed of some benefit, albeit oftentimes it is hidden, a
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