Sometimes we are in emotional overload over a situation and we burst with a biting remark. We say it in attempt to make ourselves feel better. When we are feeling overwhelmed with negative emotion (stress, anxiety) before saying or doing anything, we ought to pause and take a breath. Ask ourselves: “What is the outcome […]
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Don’t harp on the mistakes that your spouse made. (You also want to be cut some slack from time to time.) Saying words like “What were you thinking?” focus mostly on the mistake – made in the past. Many times, you’d do best by just letting the mistake go unmentioned. If you feel it ought
Ask: “What will you do differently next time?” not “What were you thinking?” Read More »
The conversation may start off calmly enough, but when emotions get involved, things can flare up. And rather quickly. Not leading anywhere positive. Hopefully, one of you will notice this before it gets too hot, and will call a ‘time out’. –>“Let’s not let this get out of hand and say things we will both
Don’t allow an argument to escalate. Yes, you can stop mid-sentence. Read More »
Remember what you admired and liked about your spouse when you first committed to a lifetime together. (And if you don’t remember, ask some of your friends from back them to remind you.) When (if) you hit a rough patch, bring up that positive image of your spouse’s best self. And address that person. The
Remember why you got married to your spouse. The happy moments. Read More »
Sometimes your upset is because this incident is yet one more example of a trend in your marriage. This yet one more incident where your schedule was not taken into account at all. Lousy investment practices, upsetting parenting tactics, selfishness. Lead with the big picture and bring in the latest incident as ‘evidence’. In other
Don’t let bad habits run amok. Read More »
Sometimes your upset is because this incident is yet one more example of a trend in your marriage. This yet one more incident where your schedule was not taken into account at all. Lousy investment practices, upsetting parenting tactics, selfishness. Lead with the big picture and bring in the latest incident as ‘evidence’. In other
Take care of the weeds before they take over the field. Read More »
Yes, it is true that “man plans and G-d laughs’. At the same time, you and your spouse are in the same marriage. In the same car and you really ought to be going in the same direction. What do you want for your life, for your marriage. Discuss that. You want to be ‘happy’;
Live your life ‘by design’. Discuss your long term goals. Read More »
This last month was busy with holidays and you might have missed those date nights or good conversations that enrich your relationship. For the next ‘quiet’ months, you can set a routine of date nights, taking a walk together, tea together. Or whatever works for you. Or what you may want to try.And set it
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Our phones have become so much part of modern living. They are powerful and useful. In so many ways. But they are also destructive. In so many ways. Is your phone/ device serving you: is it helping you become more productive? is it helping the quality of your relationships – both those from afar and
Is your phone serving you? Or, are you serving it? Read More »
Do you – or someone you know – use their phone or other device way too often and it is impacting their relationships or productivity? For some people, the phone is a tool to distract themselves from their real life. –>They don’t like to be alone with their own thoughts (in other words, bored) even
Are you using your phone as a distraction from your real life? Read More »
