To be clear, it is interdependence, not co-dependence. Before marriage, your actions and decisions mostly impacted just yourself. Your own bank account, your own reputation, your own credit score, your own time, your own living style. As soon as you got married, that all changed. You are part of a WE or an US. What […]
In marriage you shift independence to interdependence. Read More »
No rights. Just responsibilities or obligations to each other. The obligation to respect and care for each other – physically and emotionally. When each of the couple cares for and respects each other, then the issue of rights falls moot. Both are quite happy in the relationship. Don’t look to see that your rights are
To be clear, a WE mentality does not mean that you get to know everything about your spouse. There are many things that can remain private. –Private, not secret.– Conversations between friends, emails, mistakes, past history, what each did during the day. When there is trust, neither feels the need to know. A WE mentality
Privacy and a ‘we’ mentality. There can/ ought to be both. Read More »
We have become the ‘me’ generation. And with that, a lot of self help and self reflection. There is a place for all that. We can only change ourselves, we need to know ourselves so we can recognize our role in our life’s situation. and all that. All very very important. At the same time,
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Some people avoid self-reflection because they fear that they will be faced with the less pretty sides of themselves. Not so, we all have lots of successes to celebrate too. Start with those. Success breeds success. (You can always go to the mistakes questions later.) • What went well? What am I most proud of?
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It takes time to define your core values and life purpose. But it is key to making good choices for your life. How can you forge a path when you don’t know where you are going? So, once you have defined your values, life’s purpose and priorities, turn them into a set of guiding questions
Reality check: are you living according to your values? Read More »
When your choices are grounded in your values and priorities, your life is more in balance. Things seem out of whack when what we do in our lives is not aligned with our truest priorities and values. We want a strong and happy marriage, but other things – like work, household chores, social life, (the
When you are proud of your choices, you don’t need the approval of others. Read More »
It is never too late to get started on defining your core values. And they may change through the different phases of your life. CORE VALUES: Of course our Torah values. Beyond those, what are your core values? Some possibles: Shabbos is time for family bonding. Our children should have lots of experiences in nature.
Core values: benefits of defining them. Consequences for not. Read More »
Throughout life, there will be many roads with forks – many selections to be made. Sometimes, the outcome is not that important and the choice or decision is easier to be made. And sometimes, the options are life changing and it can be a bit overwhelming to make a selection. Nonetheless, you must move in
When you come to a fork in the road, take it. Read More »
Too many of us fill every empty second checking out our phones. There’s always something to read or play on the phone. But that robs us of the small opportunities to be present in our own lives, being with our own thoughts, thinking about what matters to us, making meaning of what is happening in
The most interesting thing you can get to know today is not on your phone. Read More »
