Some people are great with dating until things turn serious. Once it becomes clear that things could go all the way with this person, a range of anxieties can kick in. Some people have a terrible fear of commitment, whilst others become obsessive once they feel attached to a person, and the list goes on. […]
Why dating can begin well and become difficult later. Read More »
In theory, dating is this exhilarating experience. We get to meet a lovely person and spend a really nice evening getting to know them. what’s not to like? This, sadly, is not how it feels for many people. Perhaps they find opening up to a new person difficult, maybe they are not a strong conversationalist,
Many people don’t – and won’t – enjoy dating. Read More »
Ideally, you meet someone who is a great fit, you connect well with them, and are excited to have found someone with whom you can have a wonderful life. I wish this on everyone. However, a significant portion of people will find that whoever they meet, it is a struggle. This could be for some
A date can be both difficult and successful – there is no inherent contradiction. Read More »
You are dating someone you get along with great. You feel great affection towards him; but despite numerous dates, you do not seem to be able to work up any kind of real passion for him. The situation is highly frustrating for you because you would love to feel differently about him and the emotions
I really care for her, so why can’t I feel that passionate love? Read More »
This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The
“I like the person I am dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter.” Read More »
Some people have what is known as an “anxious attachment orientation”, which means that they hold on extra tight to the person they are attached to. They are likely to want to constantly be in contact with their love-interest, want to know exactly where they are all the time, and react poorly when their date
How and why anxiety can get the better of you in dating. Read More »
Clearly, there are halachic, spiritual and psychological issues with pornography. Here we are looking at ‘addiction’ to porn, which means that the person feels a degree of compulsion. An addiction will interfere with your normal functioning, and it will undermine the level of focus and motivation that you could otherwise direct towards dating. Dating takes
How addiction to pornography could be affecting your dating. Read More »
This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The
Do you get stuck in the transition from “me” to “we”? Read More »
Without realizing it, some people are actually looking for opposites in a single person – which may explain why things are not going so well. It is not impossible for those differing traits to exist in one person, but that is quite rare, and often brings its own problems. It is usually wiser to choose
Conflicting and confused priorities. Read More »
Some people have what is known as an “anxious attachment orientation”, which means that they hold on extra tight to the person they are attached to. They are likely to want to constantly be in contact with their love-interest, want to know exactly where they are all the time, and react poorly when their date
How and why anxiety can get the better of you in dating. Read More »
