Some people have what is known as an “anxious attachment orientation”, which means that they hold on extra tight to the person they are attached to. They are likely to want to constantly be in contact with their love-interest, want to know exactly where they are all the time, and react poorly when their date […]
How and why anxiety can get the better of you in dating. Read More »
People often insist that the reason that they give such prominence to the physical attractiveness of their date is because it is greatly important to them. The reason why they have turned down so many dates is because they were not the “look” they are searching for. Perhaps. But what if there is something entirely
Are you fixated by appearance? Read More »
Dating is mostly about ensuring there is a great deal of agreement: about values, life goals, mutual interest, and so on. But there does not need to be universal agreement. It is perfectly okay, and more than likely, for a dating couple to discover that they have differences of opinion on various issues. It is
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Dating can leave some people feeling nervous, anxious, and worried. Remember that opening up to someone relatively quickly is not something we have to do in any other situation, so it is not surprising if some people will find the experience hard. It is not uncommon for people to start out self-conscious, shy, or nervous.
I am painfully quiet and find dating worrying and challenging. Read More »
Some people tend towards selflessness. Others are naturally more selfish; the needs of others are less important to them. Some may not warm to such a character, and that is fine too. While objectively selflessness is a moral virtue, no one has every virtue and everyone is still capable of having a normal relationship. However,
Recognizing narcissistic tendencies. Read More »
It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality or feature that is above-average – in other words, less common – there are fewer such people in the population. If a person seeks several qualities at a level that is above average for that particular feature, the number of
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for? Read More »
It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality or feature that is above-average – in other words, less common – there are fewer such people in the population. If a person seeks several qualities at a level that is above average for that particular feature, the number of
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for? Read More »
Many people find something exhilarating about dating someone particularly smart. They find it easier to respect the person and take them seriously. They find the conversation is more stimulating and engaging. Where it gets complicated is when people also want – or more likely need – other features in their spouse which do not necessarily
I am attracted to smart people, is that a problem? Read More »
Clearly, there are halachic, spiritual and psychological issues with pornography. Here we are looking at ‘addiction’ to porn, which means that the person feels a degree of compulsion. An addiction will interfere with your normal functioning, and it will undermine the level of focus and motivation that you could otherwise direct towards dating. Dating takes
How addiction to pornography could be affecting your dating. Read More »
It is normal that even successful dating will be accompanied by some degree of disappointment, as it is almost impossible to find someone who is 100% what you prefer. However, some people are affected by what we call “The Rollercoaster syndrome,” which makes this a much more extreme process. Such people begin the dating by
Coping with disappointment in dating: The Rollercoaster syndrome. Read More »
