Taking a break during dating is often a cop out and will not achieve anything. Most doubts or uncertainties regarding your dating partner are best resolved through interacting with your date or by getting sage advice from those in the know. However, there are unique situations when a break would be helpful. The first is […]
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For a variety of reasons, people may feel pressure to form a relationship and get married. It may be demands from the family, personal loneliness, or the person getting older. This may push us into ignoring our own wishes and needs just to find someone to settle down with. That is not the way to
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Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much as some other things. It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage and life. But ultimately, you are contemplating marrying an individual. Of course, the influence of the person’s family is a factor. Nonetheless, more important is the person’s own journey
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Do you actually know what you are looking for? Your list of preferences is only useful if real thought has gone into it. While you may learn things by actually meeting someone, you should not start dating without having a good sense of what you are looking for. Think of people you know who have
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Many people don’t – and won’t – enjoy dating. In theory, dating is this exhilarating experience. We get to meet a lovely person and spend a really nice evening getting to know them. What’s not to like? This, sadly, is not how it feels for many people. Perhaps they find opening up to a new
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Working well with a shadchan is key to success. It begins with establishing a good working relationship, including finding one that suits you, and learning how they operate. The partnership’s success will be greatly enhanced if you provide the shadchan with the tools to help you, especially clear information about yourself and what you are
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For a date to go well, you need to be present and focused. If you are over-tired, exhausted, or distracted, the dating can fall flat. If possible, it is best to begin dating when you are willing and able to apply the necessary time, energy, and clear mind to the project. It is not advisable
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A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a person does need to be in a fit mental state. Developing and maintaining a relationship requires the person to be able to focus on and prioritize the relationship and the person they seek to be in a relationship with. Someone struggling with any
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Some people see dating as looking to see if there is full agreement between the parties. The minute they hit upon some area of disagreement, they feel disappointed. Instead of raising their concern with their dating partner, they express their frustration to their parents, shadchan, coach, etc. Unless the gap is felt to be truly
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If you are told that a potential shidduch has a medical condition, it is reasonable for you to be apprehensive. Health is a very important issue. However, it is only one of many important issues married couples have to deal with. There are three sets of questions that you should ask to help you decide
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