Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad talks with Rabbi Pinney and Helana Herman about Gifting your Relationship with a change. This talk also covers some key points of the Imago Dialog and other tools.
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“I’m not angry,” (said when clearly and visibly showing signs of anger.) Sometimes this is then followed with stonewalling. Often people say this as a form of denial, or they want to avoid conflict and not talk about what went wrong. If you are angry about something, admit it and address it in a respectful
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Sometimes, people ask a question, but they are really seeking reassurance and encouragement. “Do you think I am ready?” “Does this look good?” They aren’t looking for information and they don’t necessarily even want the truthful answer. Instead of answering the question, respond to the underlying need. “You are well prepared for the presentation.” “I
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Practice seeing life with a beginner’s mind; see things with an open mind and fresh eyes – just like a beginner. With curiosity. With openness to new possibilities. That means dropping prejudgments, expectations, and preconceived ideas. That is letting go of what you think you know about the subject. It’s about being curious and wondering,
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Stress experienced by one of the couple has an effect on the other person as well as on the relationship. When your spouse faces a challenge or overwhelm, assure them that you are there at their side and they don’t have to face it alone. Reassure them that when and if they need anything, all
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[3 part series.] A good intimacy relationship needs to be created and nurtured. In this series, we explore some emotional obstacles that might present in your marriage and how to overcome them. We also share some ways to talk to your spouse about your intimacy relationship.
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Vorfreude. This German word conveys the concept of joyful anticipation which comes from imagining future pleasures. (Vorfreude literally translates to “advance-joy.”) Vorfreude can be a sliver of excitement in middle of the busyness of life. Think and talk about an upcoming special event – a yom tov, a date-night, a vacation, a party, a move,
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Confirm everything that you hear during research. Do not rely on learning about it during the research. Even if the topic may be uncomfortable to bring up or for them to talk about it. Talk about everything so that you know that you are working from same understanding. And more importantly, it is important to
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You do have to share anything that can impact a life together. Everything comes out eventually, and the betrayal of not knowing in advance can be very destructive. But you should not share every stupid mistake you made as a teenager. Don’t talk about past relationships, unless there is an aspect that is important for
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Meeting the parents – yes or no? It is usually worthwhile. It does not mean a commitment. At all. It can be beneficial to you. You can get a better sense of who they are and their family and context. You will see them with their family – how they interact with their parents, how
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