You have to make the decision about marriage – yourself, with your own head and heart. Do not let anyone else’s reasonings or schedules impact this very important decision. Related: .
#019: You have to make the decision about marriage yourself. Read More »
If a shiduch is ended and you are surprised by it, recognize that it wasn’t meant to be. You would have realized that too, it is just that they saw it before you did.
If you feel that you did not present yourself fully on the date, let the shadchan know. The shadchan can then help the other side better understand the dynamics.
Avoid leading questions, questions that suggest a particular answer that the questioner desires. A leading question is a type of question that pushes the other person to answer in a specific manner, based on the way the question is framed. More than often, such a question already contains information that the questioner wants to confirm rather than try
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Ask bold open-ended questions that help you get to know the person beyond the things that they do. ”How did you get into that? What is the backstory?”
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Do not commit to marriage until you have experienced making at least one decision together. Reflect on how you felt during that decision-making process.
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Our earlier experiences around the holidays impact how we celebrate them as adults. Sharing your Shavuos memories can help you both better understand why you feel certain ways about different aspects of Shavuos. You may also decide together about creating new family traditions and experiences. What was the typical menu on Shavuos? What are some
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3 Conversations you might have this week What comes to mind when you hear the word ‘mother’? What are your thoughts about getting better prices online vs buying locally? What do you wish we always have stocked in our refrigerator? 2 Quotes to inspire you “Don’t complain about things you are unwilling to change.” “Happiness
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Something important to talk about? Something that is uncomfortable for one or both of you? Give the conversation its best chance – by being at your best. Don’t have the conversation when you are hungry, angry, late or tired (think the acronym H.A.L.T.) You won’t have a productive conversation when you don’t have enough energy,
Have hard conversations when you’re at your best, not your worst. Read More »
We all have blind spots — aspects of our personalities that we don’t know exist. And they affect our performance, our success and our relationships. But since we don’t know them, we can’t work on them. Proactively ask your spouse to point them out. Maybe ask for just one at a time. “What is one
Ask for help to recognize, and work on, your blind spots. Read More »
