If someone (or several people) isn’t listening to your ideas or taking you seriously, instead of getting upset, reflect about why are they are not taking you seriously. It could be something about them. They might not have faith in themselves and they are projecting that back at you. It might be something about you […]
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Sometimes, your message may not be fully understood the first time you share it. This often happens when the idea is new for the other person. Often, it is worthwhile to share the idea in other words too. You may come at the idea from a different angle, or bring in a metaphor or visual.
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As soon as we wake, we say מודה אני. Thankful am I. The very first word of my day is מודה, gratitude. I start the day in gratitude to Hashem for a new day, full of fresh opportunities. Only after grounding my day in gratitude, do I mention אני, myself. Once I have established the
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Your past, no matter how bad it was, no matter what mistakes you made, does not define your future. You are not your past. The choices and actions you make today will ultimately define who you will eventually become. Make the decision to learn from your past and apply it in the present and have
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3 Conversations you might have this week What does sunlight mean to you? What is a song that you find inspirational or meaningful? What are two things you remember about kindergarten? 2 Quotes to inspire you “You’re never too old to take baby steps.” “Forgive yourself for not knowing what you did not know before
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Instead of making an assumption or jumping to conclusions about something your spouse said or did, be curious. You’ll get a more accurate understanding of what is going on. And it will deepen your relationship. Curiosity leads to deeper understanding of one another. Curiosity helps both of you grow. By asking and answering questions, you
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Are you subconsciously in some sort of competition with your spouse? Do you sometimes have this need to be ‘better’ than them? Is it possible that in some area you try to one-up your spouse? Or even try to sabotage their growth? Do you accentuate or highlight one of their limitations or weaknesses (especially in
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Often this comes along with eye rolling or other demeaning body language. When someone says this, they are trying to show their superiority. As if the other person is silly or insignificant. And that they do it often. Instead, listen to what they have to say, maybe there is something that you ought to be
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Something in your life isn’t going as you wish and you are feeling badly about that. In some circumstances, feeling badly can be helpful and productive. It’s about how you are doing your feeling bad: is it directed at the past or to the future? Feeling remorse or regret is future- and change-oriented; it can
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Negative thoughts about the past are not helpful and yet sometimes we indulge in them anyway. Sometimes, we would rather wallow in these despairing thoughts instead of trying to resolve the issue. It just seems easier and more comfortable to cry and kvetch than put in the work to make the change. It takes time
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