Advice is someone telling you what to do. Many times, when we are facing a challenge, we just want someone to tell us what to do. It is so much easier and it takes away our burden. You may be needing an answer, but is someone else’s advice best? Are you asking the right person? […]
Don’t seek advice, seek insight. Read More »
When we see that someone is facing a challenge or struggling with something (big or small), we typically might ask them, “What is the matter?” or some variation. For even more meaningful and potentially helpful conversation, we should also ask: “What matters to you?” This concept comes from the healthcare field. Practitioners are now asking
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Apart from it being irritating on the receiving end, it is usually inaccurate. We don’t really know what people are thinking; we aren’t mind readers. And it usually isn’t in our best interest to make wild guesses. Often, people say this when they are anxious about something the other might say. Often, it is coming
Words to Avoid: “I know what you are going to say/ ask.” Read More »
By definition, a transition is a process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another. In addition to the many details that usually accompany a transition (so many decisions, logistics, learning new things, etc.), transitions are also emotionally challenging. We might feel nervous, anxious, unsure, or sad. We might be feeling lost and
Managing life’s tough transitions. Read More »
There’s the old cliché, “The grass is greener on the other side of the fence” that tells us not to compare. The reality is that the grass is greener over there because they put in the work to keep it that way. Watering, fertilizing, mowing. Whatever it takes for a great lawn. Too often, we
The grass is greener – where you water it. Read More »
