When you notice something going on for your spouse, bring it up. This shows them that you care and that you are trying to understand them. Share what you have observed and what you imagine to be true based on those observations. Even though what you imagine may be wrong, it’s great to share your […]
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What decision would you make if you knew there wasn’t a wrong one? Often, anxiety makes decision-making all the harder is by tricking us into believing that there will be a right choice and a wrong one, a good one and a bad one. If you are feeling really stuck between two decisions, it’s very
Just because there are choices doesn’t mean there is a wrong one. Read More »
Or, “I’m wondering if there is another way of looking at this.” When someone misinterprets your words or actions, instead of retorting with “You got it all wrong”, you can ask this question. * The idea is that there are so many possible explanations for something that was done or said. Too often, people interpret
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If you’re constantly trying to be your “best self”, you’re not going to laugh a lot. If you’re insecure or self-conscious, then everything becomes a dance designed to validate your insecurities and make you feel good about yourself. And you won’t allow yourself to be silly or dorky or your own unique selves – the
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The thing about multitasking is not only is not productive, but it is also stress-inducing. Productivity and multitasking are at odds with each other. Multitasking really means switching between tasks and giving less than 100% of your attention to each. Productivity is all about that combination of time, energy and attention. Multitasking does not expand
Multitasking is not a skill to be cultivated, but a liability to be avoided. Read More »
3 Conversations you might have this week Something you may not know about me is … (take turns answering this in a few rounds, in quick succession) The best cake I ever tasted was … When I was a little kid I wanted … 2 Quotes to inspire you “The biggest problem in communication is
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Is there an important change that you know you ought to be making but can’t get yourself to actually do (like quitting a mind-numbing job or ending a toxic friendship)? Chances are that you are not taking action because the path of inaction is less frightening because it feels more familiar. But, this inaction is
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Every relationship has issues where each sees things somewhat differently. (Money, in laws, children, religiosity, value differences, division of responsibilities, etc.) Too often, these issues only get attention when couples are fighting about them. When an issue is not addressed in constructive ways, negative energy around the issue is stored up and can easily get
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“Everybody says that you … are crazy.” … are wrong here.” Or worse, “Nobody else does that.”Think about why you use this phrase or tactic. Are you trying to bully the other person?If you are upset about something, talk about it with respect – without bringing in other people into the conversation.(And, btw, how do
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You’ve been dating someone for a few times. You’ve both shared about yourselves and know quite a bit about each other. And then you determine that this person is not for you, and you want to end the relationship. Remember, this is a vulnerable time for both of you. How you end the relationship should be done with dignity and respect – for both of your sakes.
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