Psychological problems can cause enormous difficulties in a relationship, but there is also excessive fear and confusion around the issue. Just because someone is diagnosed with a mental disorder does not mean they can’t be in a normal, happy and very functional relationship. You may miss a chance to be with an amazing person in […]
The person has a psychological illness – should I consider it? Read More »
It is difficult to assess compatibility in the absence of criteria. Having a clear list of priorities against which to measure suitability will help you make your decision with confidence. You may not know what you really need in a life-partner until you actually spend time dating process. Your dating experiences will teach you a
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If you are told that a potential shidduch has a medical condition, it is reasonable for you to be apprehensive. Health is a very important issue. However, it is only one of many important issues married couples have to deal with. There are three sets of questions that you should ask to help you decide
Finding out about a medical condition. Read More »
Most shidduchim are set up with the assistance and advocacy of the young adult’s parents (or another older family member). The young man or woman is dependent on their parents to find them a potential match, which makes communication between them vitally important. Parents have to recognize that the young adult expects their views to
Parent and child getting on the same page regarding shidduchim. Read More »
“Mile by mile one hits the milestone.” You can only get better through actions. It doesn’t matter if it’s little or big, progress is still progress! If you keep taking those steps at the end of the day, week, month, and year you will have achieved BIG things.
A little progress each day adds up to big results. Read More »
A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a person does need to be in a fit mental state. Developing and maintaining a relationship requires the person to be able to focus on and prioritize the relationship and the person they seek to be in a relationship with. Someone struggling with any
Preconditions for dating. Read More »
Even if we consider ourselves good-looking and are proud of our appearance, we feel cheapened when other people are overly focused on our external appearance instead of our inner worth. It is worth remembering that “men will be men,” and so long as it is not extreme it is not necessarily a problem, depending on
“I feel all he is interested in are my looks”. Read More »
It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality or feature that is above-average – in other words, less common – there are fewer such people in the population. If a person seeks several qualities at a level that is above average for that particular feature, the number of
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for? Read More »
If you need to disclose sensitive information, it is important that you handle the process in a way that will cause the least damage. While each situation is clearly different, there are some common principles. It is advisable to give off a realistic portrayal of life from the outset and weave into that the factors
Most people are looking for a special resonance between themselves and the person they choose to marry. They want to have that intangible sense that they have found “their other half.” What this is really about is a desire to reach a level of mutual acceptance and appreciation that is both thrilling and liberating. Most
I am looking for my soulmate; how do I know when I have found it? Read More »
