If you fill your head with positive thoughts, there won’t be any room left for negative ones. Every day, think of at least three good points about your spouse. Everyone has good in them. We just have to notice. Even negative behaviors can sometimes stem from positive traits, or have a positive side to them. […]
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There’s an old saying, “The checkbook and the calendar never lie.” The way we spend our time and money says a lot about what is important to us. It says something about our values. We can look at our calendar and credit card/ cashapp/zelle statements to give us a sobering picture of what we consider
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You are each unique and wonderful in your own ways. Don’t make it into a competition. You may prioritize being healthy, and your spouse doesn’t care as much. You may want to be involved in community work and your spouse would rather spend more time with the family. You may have certain ways of doing
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Imagine a world where we don’t have to fully believe in ourselves before we were willing to try something. We can really do this if we live with a mindset of “Experiments never fail.” We would just do it, knowing that the first time(s) will most likely be awkward and maybe even difficult. That there
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The key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad. Not easy, but that simple. It’s a decision you can make. Things happen in our lives. It may seem that those circumstances inform our emotions. Really, those circumstances are neutral. They exist outside us; they do not define who we are and how
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In every couple, there are two unique people, so it is inevitable that there will have differences in perspectives, opinions, dreams, and desires. There really isn’t one right way to experience the world. Things that irritate us about our spouse are things where we have differences. Explore deeper to understand what difference(s) that irritation reveals.
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Everyone will experience changes in their lives. People move, change jobs, lose friendships. Sometimes, it can feel hard to let go of what was. We might try to get it back or recreate it. But it’s just not the same as it was. Everything that occurs in our lives happens for us – for a
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When we vent, some of our negative emotions does add to the other person’s mental burden. So, before you dump, ask if they are in the right headspace for your venting. Give them the option to say that they are not able to listen just now. “Do you have a few minutes to help me
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Words are powerful; they can help, heal, hurt, harm. Words like “You make me feel special” or “What can I do to help?” can enrich a relationship. Of course, words said deliberately to hurt or belittle are damaging to a relationship. Certain words or phrases can be ‘triggering’ (for both good or bad) as they
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As you create your schedule, don’t forget to put in some time for friends. Not necessarily every week, but often enough. In a healthy balance of friends and your own couple friendship. We all benefit from friendships. There are things that men feel comfortable sharing and doing only with other men. The same holds true
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