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“This is probably going to be a hard conversation, let’s speak about it anyway” 🌟

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Starting a hard conversation can feel daunting, but it’s often the first step toward growth. Saying, “This is probably going to be a hard conversation, let’s speak about it anyway,” helps set the tone for honesty. It acknowledges the challenge but also opens the door to facing it together. To prepare, it’s important to be […]

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In a conflict? It’s not about winning, it’s about understanding.

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When there is a conflict or difference of opinion, the goal shouldn’t be to prove the other person wrong. If the focus is on winning the argument, all that happens is that the other person gets defeated. And when someone feels defeated, they’re less likely to engage openly or do their best thinking about the

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“I’ll just stop talking instead of trying again to help you understand my feelings and needs”

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🥺”I’ve reached a point where I’m just too exhausted to keep telling you about my feelings and needs. It feels like every time I express myself, I’m dismissed. So, I’ll just stop talking. 🥺”While you might feel relieved that I’m not complaining or bringing up issues, my silence doesn’t mean I’m okay. It signals that

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Don’t plan, prepare: be ready for whatever comes your way

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When it comes to facing challenges or new experiences, it’s better to be prepared than to plan. Planning often involves setting specific goals, expectations and steps, which can lead to disappointment if things don’t go as expected. Preparation, on the other hand, is more of a mindset about being ready for whatever comes our way.

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“‘I’m sorry; I am just pathetic’ isn’t the apology I need.”

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When you say, “I’m sorry. OK, so I’m not a good (enough) husband/wife,” or throw out phrases like “I’m so pathetic” or “You deserve better than this,” it doesn’t feel like a real apology to me. It feels like you’re deflecting. Honestly, it seems like you’re sidestepping the hurt I’m feeling. Those self-pitying apologies don’t

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Words To Use: “If it bothers you, it matters to me”

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“If it bothers you, it matters to me”  or “I know we are each in charge of our own feelings, but yours matter to me.” These phrases are powerful in relationships because they validate your partner’s emotions and show empathy, even when you don’t fully understand or share their feelings. By acknowledging their experience, you

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Blame doesn’t bring accountability or change.

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Blaming someone rarely leads to accountability or real change. Why? Because blame makes people defensive. Instead of feeling accountable, they start looking for excuses or someone else to blame. It shuts down productive conversations and growth. Instead, create an atmosphere of understanding. For example, instead of saying, “You don’t care enough to do [something important

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Why “I’m sorry” doesn’t work. What you should say instead.

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Too often, when we say “I’m sorry,” it’s less about genuine remorse and more about wanting to stop the other person from being upset. But what people truly want when they feel hurt is to feel understood, not just hear an apology. So if you’ve hurt someone, even unintentionally, start by understanding their perspective. Then,

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