JOT-Better Words

This phrase often comes across as dismissive, passive, and reluctant. It can make the other person feel like their perspective isn’t worthy of real engagement or respect. It’s a way of brushing off their feelings or opinions without truly addressing them. Instead of shutting down the conversation with this phrase, try showing curiosity and a […]

We’re two unique people—different upbringings, different wiring, different life experiences. So, of course, we’ll see things differently sometimes. You don’t need to bring the other person over to your side. First, seek to understand theirs. You might learn something new or expand your own thinking. At the very least, you’ll get to know them better.

It might technically be true — maybe what’s coming up isn’t really about you. Maybe it’s shaped by your partner’s past, a sensitive spot, or their current state of mind. But saying “That’s your issue, not mine” misses the point.It sends the message: “Whatever you’re feeling, it’s not my problem.” 🎯 Even if the origin

So much of communication is about how our words are received, not just our intention.Even with the best intentions, our words don’t always land well or have the effect we hope. When our words don’t come across well, it’s important to own that, not shift the blame. It’s a way to stay present, stay open,

This is deflecting.Instead of staying with what’s being brought up, this phrase flips the focus to their behavior — dodging your own accountability. It might feel like self-protection in the moment, but deflecting shuts down honest, connected conversation. And ultimately, the relationship. Pause and ask yourself:✨ What feels uncomfortable right now? ✨ What part of

This simple line shares your inner world.You are sharing it as your perspective—not the ultimate truth.You’re not stating it as a fact or making an accusation—just naming the way something lands for you. 💛 “The story I tell myself when you bring me coffee is that you want to make me smile.” It works for

Using the phrase “This is what I’m thinking” shows that you’ve put thought into the situation and that you’re offering your perspective in an open, non-defensive way. It’s a great way to introduce an idea or a plan while also showing that you’re open to hearing the other person’s thoughts and willing to adjust if

When dividing tasks, it’s important to approach it as a shared responsibility, not as one person helping the other. Offering to take on certain tasks with the phrase “I’ll tackle that” signals both willingness and collaboration. However, tone matters—saying it with enthusiasm and a positive attitude is key. Don’t say it begrudgingly or as if

You don’t have to have an answer the moment a question is asked. Sometimes, you really do need to think about it—and that’s okay. Saying something like “That’s a good question. Let me think about it.” gives you space to reflect while also showing respect for the other person and the topic. It signals that

Saying something like “I see what you mean” shows that you’re actually listening and that you respect their perspective—even if you don’t agree, even if you ultimately choose a different direction. It’s perfectly okay to have different viewpoints; you don’t always have to agree. But it’s important to value and hear the other person, and