We are all individual people with our own perspectives and view of our world. There will be differences. It is important to understand your spouse’s viewpoint. Be respectful of their opinion, even if it differs from your own. Try to put yourself in their shoes, and recognize that everyone has different experiences and beliefs that […]
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Sometimes, we use the words ” I feel” when we have opinions, are evaluating the actions of others, or how we think others are acting toward us. When we share opinions, we’re speaking from our thoughts, not our emotions. We may be using the word ‘feel’, but we are not communicating how we actually feel.
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Thoughts and feelings are often used interchangeably. But they really are not the same. There really is a difference – a big difference. The words ‘I feel/ I am ‘ should only be used when followed by a true feeling, not a thought/ opinion. One way you could distinguish between the two is the words used
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“I feel like/that” is a passive way to say, “I think that.” What we feel are emotions, such as “happy, excited, confused, concerned”. Yet, so often we use the word “feel” when we really mean “think”. “I feel like this isn’t going to end well” vs “I think this isn’t going to end well.” Hmm,
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Our minds have very little control over this world. Our mind can’t control the weather, other people, places and the things around us. When we worry, we are in a sense asking our mind to manipulate the world to make things go as we wish. But the mind just can’t do that. We worry and
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It’s the Law of Reciprocity. When we do something for someone else, they tend to reciprocate. When we’re generous, the other person is more likely to be generous toward us. When we genuinely want to understand the other’s point of view, they’ll more likely to want to understand yours. If the person we talk with
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How do these words land on you: “I hear you”, “I understand you”? To some people, they mean the same thing. “I hear you”: Some people take that as the one saying those words is impatient or that they are not really trying to get your point and they want to jump in with their
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MATCH YOUR WORDS TO THE INTENSITY OF YOUR EMOTIONS. Every emotion has degrees, from diminished to fiercely intense. Different words have different temperatures. Monitor your language and make sure your language isn’t minimizing or exaggerating the intensity of emotions. Match your words to the actual intensity of your emotions. –> Are you feeling blue, stressed,
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Even though several words may be synonymous, they have different shades of meaning and connotations. Additionally, some words have different meanings to specific people. Some words don’t really convey much; they are very general. 🤔“It was a nice day.” Nice in what way? Fun, relaxed, good enough.🤔“I am so happy.” Are you excited or elated
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The common understanding of empathy is walking in someone else’s shoes. In reality, that takes some assuming of what is going on, which can lead to the distressed one not feeling seen or heard. Instead, we should be inquisitive, then validating and compassionate. Just as there are different love languages, similarly there are empathy languages.
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