As we enter a new year, it is a great time to reflect on last year and look forward to the upcoming year. Some things to think about: What lessons have I learned in this past year that will help me become more of who I want to be? How do I want to feel […]
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Look at so much that you did right in your past. Negativity bias. We so often let things of negative nature have more impact on us than positive. We focus more on the negative than the positive or neutral. We all have so many wins and successes in our past along with some mistakes. Somehow,
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It’s all part of our life journey. As we think about whatever it is that we are having trouble forgiving ourselves for, we should consider if our expectations around that are realistic to who we were at the time we made that mistake. Are we having a hard time forgiving ourselves for not setting ourselves
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Self-Forgiveness invites you to change your mind about yourself. We all make mistakes; after all, we’re human. And then we feel bad about it. It is often our distorted interpretation of what happened rather than the reality that holds us in a vortex of negativity and shame and beating ourselves up. The fact: you didn’t
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Forgive yourself to let go of the shame you may be carrying. When we feel we’ve done something wrong, it can leave us with feelings of guilt. That guilt can allow us to identify and correct the mistake. When we find it difficult to let go of guilt, it might be that we are struggling
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When we hold a grudge against others, we are holding a grudge against ourselves. When we are hurt by others, we get angry and may have some thoughts along the lines of: “How did I let this happen?” “How did I not see the signs?” “Why didn’t I say something sooner?” “Why did I stay
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During an argument, take a break with Yellow Light, Red Light When you notice that your discussion is spiraling downwards or moving to sensitive topics, you might use the metaphor of the traffic light to indicate that you need to take a break. The idea is to use a two-word phrase “Yellow Light” in place
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Think of a conflict from the perspective of a neutral third party. Often, it is helpful to think of a conflict from the perspective of a neutral third party who wants the best for all involved. How might this person resolve the disagreement? This is not always so easy to do in the moment of
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The words we use in a disagreement can make all the difference. Start with a soft opener. According to the Gottman Institute, 94% of the time, the way the conversation begins determines how it ends. In other words, discussions will end on the same note they begin. If we start an argument harshly by attacking
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Don’t “agree to disagree”. When we “agree to disagree” we are essentially hitting a dead-end, and thus there is a sense of disconnect. Each side is holding onto their own truth without acknowledging that the other person has another interpretation of the same event. Both sides can be right. Based on their experiences and logic,
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