The 5 Second Rule (developed by Mel Robbins): The moment you feel yourself hesitate on something you know you should do, count 5-4-3-2-1 and then just do it. The premise is that if you don’t move in the first five seconds, your mental habits of overthinking, doubt and fear will take over. Those thoughts then […]
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Holding onto a past or a dream that is not your reality will drive you crazy. It wastes so much mental energy. And your time that could be spent on the reality that is your life. Radical acceptance is all about fully accepting your reality in situations that are beyond your control. This doesn’t mean
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Complaining never made anything better. Everyone has things in their lives that they wish were different (or better). But simply complaining for complaining’s sake doesn’t bring change. That’s whining. (Venting is different and should be done judiciously and with intention.) Complaining brings down the mood of everyone in the conversation – especially the complainer. If
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Everyone is unique and we think, process, react differently. We like different things. Some of it might be from upbringing or gender. Some of it is just personality, wiring, situational. Not better or worse. Just different. It is worthwhile to pay attention to each other’s styles. Pay attention so you can file it for when
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Compromise usually comes out as a win-lose scenario; it means that someone wins and someone loses. Often in a relationship, we find ourselves compromising for our partner, always accommodating our partner. “All right, whatever you say.” “If that’s the way it has to be.” If one person is always compromising in this way, it will
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We sometimes enter into a conflict with the goal to be right; our number one objective is to prove that the other person is wrong. Instead of working together, we are now competitors, working against each other. Even if you are proven to be right, the relationship loses. Being open to being wrong is a
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Some people withhold the truth (or even straight out lie) because they want to avoid some pain or discomfort. But without honesty, there can not be intimacy and closeness. Sometimes we are not open or honest because we want to avoid the pain that may come from the truth. Sometimes it is from trying to
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Sometimes when you are in a situation it can be very difficult for you to see the whole picture. You only see your part. However, if you choose instead to see the drama unfold from the balcony view up high, you will be able to not only understand what is going on in front of
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Every successful habit is built with some failures along the way. When starting something new, you won’t get it right every time. Like a baby taking their first steps. But don’t give up after those first clumsy, awkward attempts or failures. Our success at adopting a new habit depends on our willingness to be bad
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“Clarity about what matters provides clarity about what does not.” ― Cal Newport Identify what matters to you individually, as a couple, as a family. Write down your passion statements. What really matters to you? What do you really want to do, and why do you really want to do it? What about that is
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