September 11. It’s 18 years. For some September 10 was their last night together. Their last laughs together? Their last fight? Their last apology? Their last ordinary enough night? Their last deep meaningful conversation? Their last random “You mean so much to me…”? Their last smiles? Their last “thank you for being you”? For those […]
Love and live to the fullest Read More »
Just pay attention to each other. Don’t take each other for granted. Show each other that you notice the little things that they do for you, for the family. Eye contact (not just picking up your eyes from your phone every so often), do things together (especially small stuff, not only fancy vacations), your words,
Bad parts’ as in human parts. No one is perfect. As life moves on, there are more interactions with each other. Some will be admirable, many will be the small things that deepen the relationship and some will be the mis-takes. There will be the mundane, boring and annoying parts too. It’s all part of
In a marriage of acceptance and love, you have to accept and love the ‘bad parts’ too. Read More »
Give your spouse a break. Don’t hold them to unreasonably high standards. No one can be perfect all the time. Or even close. You’d let your friends slip from time to time; you’d understand that periodically they might not be on their best behavior. Offer that same leniency to the person you committed your life
Don’t hold your spouse to unreasonably high standards. Read More »
Seeking your insights, tips and questions. —- The change of schedule and focus in the month of Tishrei can impact you in so many ways – including your children, schedule, budget, time and more. All these can impact the type of support you need from each other and need to give to each other. What’s
Marriage during the busyness of yomim tovim of Tishrei. Read More »
You have many sides of yourself. The key is to pull out the right side of you for the situation. Your words. Your voice. Your demeanor. Your actions. Listen in to your spouse’s energy at the moment. Body language. Expression. Base it off off your years of experiences and life together. Does your spouse need
Be who your spouse needs at that time. Read More »
Most people want to be noticed and acknowledged and addressed as their best self. At least as someone admirable and respectable. For yourself, when you think of your spouse, think of them as their best (better) self. And then express that out loud to them. And to others. “He isn’t home much because he is
Address your spouse as their best self. They’ll likely live up to it. Read More »
If you stop focusing on your marriage, it just won’t thrive. You can’t ‘frontload’ a marriage; you must constantly maintain it. You can’t put in tons in the beginning and hope it lasts a lifetime. You can’t live along the motto of “I told you ‘I love you’ and I’ll let you know if anything
Keep up the little things in your marriage. Read More »
Many times, the message gets lost in the choice of words or body language or other non verbals. The message itself can be rather innocuous or innocent. But the words used are not quite sensitive. Or the timing is off. Don’t throw out the message because it wasn’t packaged in the best way. Mostly, people
Focus on the message, not the exact choice of words. Read More »
Hmm. Is it possible that you are focusing more time on the areas that you disagree on than living the life that you do see eye to eye on? Some studies say we spend 90% of our time on the 10% that we disagree on. That’s grossly misusing our energy and time on the wrong
Do you spend most of your time on the few areas you disagree on? Read More »
