To avoid feeling overwhelmed and demotivated, it’s important to start with something small and manageable when tackling a big task like preparing for Pesach. Choose one corner, closet, or drawer to clean and organize, and focus on seeing quick results. These early successes will give you the energy and motivation to continue tackling larger areas. […]
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DO ONE OF YOUR SPOUSE’S CHORES OR RESPONSIBILITIES Make your spouse’s day easier. Take something off their plate. “You had a hard day, I can do [that] tonight and you just unwind.” “I’m passing the store, is there anything I should pick up?” “I can rearrange my schedule today; I can do [that errand] so
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When you spouse has an idea or potential solution to a problem, seek to better understand the reasoning behind the idea before summarily dismissing it. Even if you don’t agree with it or see some drawbacks, first validate the idea. “Coming from that angle, it makes sense that you would think that way. ” “It
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In the busyness of life, we sometimes forget to notice how our lives are enriched by the people in our lives.Take the time to reflect on the many little ways that your life is enriched by your spouse. Write them down. You won’t get a complete list in one sitting, continuously add to the the
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Deliberately call to mind the highlights of your life together. Talk about special moments, revisit special places, watch home videos, look at old pictures or listen to special songs. Mention the details – the food, what you each wore, who else was there, the weather. Whatever really brings back those moments. It’s amazing what reminiscing
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Clean up together. It is the ‘together’ part that really counts. And then comment on how nice it was to be together. You both enjoyed Shabbos in the home. Work together to clean up. Take on a tasks that the other particularly does not like doing (washing the crockpot, loading the dishwasher, whatever). Don’t wait
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Never forget important dates. Spend a few minutes entering these into your calendar. (TIP: Set to be reminded a week before.) Add important dates to your calendar – your anniversary, your spouse’s birthday, your in-law’s dates, the birthdays of each of your children. And any other dates that are important to your spouse – even
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Show your spouse that you notice who they are and what they bring to your life and to the world – their dedication to your family, their passion for their work, the way they always can help you out of a bad mood. Compliment your spouse on one of their unique strengths. Make it genuine
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Show your spouse how they have enriched your very being -how you became a better person because of them. “I am a better person because I am with you. You challenge and push me to do my best. You taught me to look at the world as …” “You are a great teacher. I learned
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One evening when you can’t get out, plan for your next dates. Create a list of things that you would like to do when you can go out. (Ideally on a shared Google document so you can each add to it as a new idea comes to you.) Start with places and activities that you
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