Both spouses contribute to the wellbeing of the marriage relationship. That means that if something isn’t working as you hope or wish or expect, you do have some part in that. Whatever you were doing in your marriage until now, put that behind you. Bring out the next version for your marriage, for your family, […]
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Show your appreciation for who your spouse is or for something that they did in a more public way. That is addition to the moments in private. “Mommy made that delicious dessert that takes several steps. Because she knows it is my favorite.” “Thanks goes to my husband for pulling this off in such short
A different PDA: public display of appreciation Read More »
Once you are parents, your marriage matter more, not less. Because now other people are counting on you.
With kids, your marriage matters even more. Read More »
Studies show that people are happier when they get to use their strengths. Get to know your strengths and talents and use them. You’ll be happier. Even better, use your strengths together with your spouse. You’ll be in a good place because you are using your strengths and then your spouse benefits from your better
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Move toward your goal, not away from the problem. Being more outcome-motivated than avoiding problems has dramatic results. Changing your emphasis from what you’re against to what your for has dramatic impact. Are you merely against something or do you want to create an important result? Visualize it. Work toward it. – “I want a
Focus on what you want; not what you don’t want. Read More »
Studies show that novelty – something new and different – brings on a dopamine rush which makes us feel good. Humans seek novelty every so often to break up the routine of day-to-day life. Studies show that people who actively seek out new experiences throughout life live happier, healthier lives. – Make a list of
Do something different. Anything. Just different. Read More »
Your spouse cares about you. And because they do, they wouldn’t intentionally hurt you or your feelings. Give them the benefit of the doubt. This mindset will let you go into every situation with an open mind, judgement free, and help you to see more clearly what is going on.
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Men and women are mostly the same. Both want to be happy and have a strong need to love and be loved. There are also differences between men and women. Differences such as what makes them happy in a relationship and family. Differences in how they address problems. Differences in what they like to do.
Let your husband be a man. Let your wife be a woman. Read More »
Sometimes the issue evokes emotions because something that is important to you did not happen, or something that you don’t want to happen did happen. You have a strong need to be included and you were excluded. You have a desire to be recognized for your hard work and you were not acknowledged. Name the
Name your underlying need or desire. Read More »
In any marriage there will be spats and thus occasions for apologizing. It just makes sense to apologize and continue with your loving relationship. But sometimes that seems very hard. —- Some things to consider as you wait for the other one to apologize. – The one who apologizes first is the stronger and braver
The first one to apologize is the stronger one. Read More »
