You may not physically be in the same place, but you are still ‘together’. And you can still have a great time together. You may be far from each other, but you still share the same starry sky, the same dreams, the same wishes, the same love. You can enjoy each other’s company from afar […]
Have a good time together. Even when you are not together. Read More »
When you look at things more positively, you will start looking for positive things to look at. When you see the positive, you just feel better than when you see the negative. So you’ll be seeking out more of that positive, so you’ll continue that better feeling. In an upward spiral.
When you change the way you look at things, what you look at changes. Read More »
Conflict is inevitable; you will have differences of perspectives and priorities around issues. Think about conflict as having two faces: external and internal. The external face of conflict is what we typically think of: the shouting, the screaming, the outwardly expressed anger. The internal face of conflict is different: it is quiet seething, an iceberg
The two faces of conflicts. Read More »
Spontaneity. Serendipity. Hashgacha. Some of most interesting experiences are not pre-planned. Allow yourself to get lost. You never know what you’ll discover about our wonderful world. And about yourselves.
It’s OK to get lost (sometimes). Some of the most interesting trips are unplanned. Read More »
You want to get to your destination faster, so you drive faster. And you save 20 minutes on the few hour drive. Wow, now you can boast that you did that drive in the shortest amount of time. And at the same time, your spouse is picking their stomach up from the floor. They were
Slow down and enjoy the ride. Read More »
You may have different comfort zones and styles for driving. Your spouse may drive too fast, too slow, too cautious, too reckless. They may drive too closely to the car ahead. Or switch lanes too often, or not enough. You may even have different routes to get to the same place – some like scenic
Have confidence in your spouse’s driving. Read More »
You may be a great driver. You can speed and weave and change the volume all at the same time. But that makes your spouse queasy. (And they probably have let you know that.) So even though you absolutely know that you are a great driver… or you love the feeling of control or adrenaline
Show you care. Drive the way your spouse wants you to. Read More »
Differences in driving styles can cause arguments and tension. Never good, especially when driving. While you may want to tell your partner to slow down or use their turn signal more often, these statements can be misconstrued as criticisms or backseat driving. This could cause a fight, which might distract the driver and … If
When your spouse is driving, just be the passenger. Read More »
(Hangry: bad-tempered or irritable as a result of hunger.) “You are not you when you are hungry” The science behind hanger is about low blood sugar levels and cortisol and epinephrine which are released in an attempt to raise it back to normal. But those hormones also happen to lead to irritability. Also, low blood
Hangry is not an excuse. It may just be the reason.. Read More »
If you don’t know what you want, then how can your spouse know? She: “Please support and encourage me to go to the gym.” Day 1: He: “How was the gym?” She: “Stop that, you make me feel bad. I didn’t get to the gym.” Day 2: He: (let me try another angle) “At what
Even with a ‘we’ mentality, your spouse still can’t read your mind. Read More »
