Assertiveness is the ability to express your feelings and ask for what you want in your relationship. Assertive is not aggressive, demanding or infringing on the rights of others; it more about being forthcoming and honest to share one’s thoughts, feelings, and desires. “I’m feeling overwhelmed with all these errands. I need some things taken […]
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Unsolicited advice can sometimes be taken as criticism or distrust. “I can take over from here” can sometimes be received as ‘they don’t think I am doing a good enough job’. It’s important to be aware of this when offering your help. Of course, at the same time, an important part of a marriage is
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Stressors are events that cause an emotional and/or physical reaction. Stress can be positive (new house, baby) or negative (loss of job, car accident, major illness). But what is important is to be able to manage the many stressors in your life. Of course, it is important to have the tools to manage the stress
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Family rituals are special things you do regularly as a family. Rituals are different from routines in that rituals have symbolic meaning and are done at special occasions. (Family dinner is a routine, a special dinner celebration is a ritual.) In addition to being something to look forward to, these rituals and traditions also establish a foundation
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3 Conversations you might have this week What do you think makes a good leader? What are some of your favorite songs? What about those do you like? Would you rather spend more and save time or shop around to save money. 2 Quotes to inspire you “You don’t have enough context to judge someone’s
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Adding specifics to a conversation adds clarity. Many statements can have many possible meanings. “I want a big car.” This can mean lots of seats, lots of trunk space, headroom, or luxury. “I want a peaceful day” can mean quiet, no tasks, no bickering, or no cooking. As possible, share the specifics of the idea
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‘Me Time’ actually makes us more productive, minimizes stress, strengthens our relationships, and reboots our brains.Even if it seems impossible, there are ways to make more time for yourself. Two ideas: Say ‘no’ to some things so you can say ‘yes’ to yourself. Sometimes, you may have to say no to something you enjoy so
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When your spouse asks you to do something, don’t just say “yes”. Add some real enthusiasm for being able to do or give what your spouse asks for. “Sure, I’d love to do that for you.” This can help your spouse feel noticed and cared for.
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Each one in the couple may different techniques for doing things. These may come from the way you were brought up, or things you observed, or techniques that you developed on your own. You might see those as ‘my way’ and ‘your way’. As a couple, it is best to come up with ‘our way’.
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