Throughout life, there will be many roads with forks – many selections to be made. Sometimes, the outcome is not that important and the choice or decision is easier to be made. And sometimes, the options are life changing and it can be a bit overwhelming to make a selection. Nonetheless, you must move in […]
When you come to a fork in the road, take it. Read More »
Too many of us fill every empty second checking out our phones. There’s always something to read or play on the phone. But that robs us of the small opportunities to be present in our own lives, being with our own thoughts, thinking about what matters to us, making meaning of what is happening in
The most interesting thing you can get to know today is not on your phone. Read More »
Of course, you love your spouse and you want them to be happy in the marriage. You may be doing a lot of what you think you should be doing to make your spouse happy. You may be giving little and big gifts. And compliments. All the right stuff. (Or you may not be.) But
Ask: “How am I doing as a spouse?” Read More »
“You didn’t do it, right?” “You don’t have it, right?” These have a negative undertone. This way of speaking may be common enough in our English vernacular, but it doesn’t make it a good way to speak. It gives a sense that you don’t expect much from the other. Choose better ways of expressing your
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Your frame of mind matters. -If you do something out of duty, it will deplete you. -If you do it out of fear, it can make you frantic. -If you do it out of love, it will energize you. You are doing the same action, but your frame of mind makes all the difference. Positive
If you are going to do it, do it from love. Read More »
It will inevitably happen. Your spouse will do something and you my feel angry about it. That anger is really a hard emotion covering a softer emotion such as hurt, disappointment, rejection, embarrassment, rejection… But responding from anger will just exacerbate the situation. Rather, just say “ouch”.. This addresses the hurt, the underlying emotion –
“Ouch” is such a powerful word. Read More »
The words with which we think can make a huge difference in how we actually live. And how people perceive us. TRY vs DO “I’m trying to get this done.” vs “I’m doing it; I’m on the journey toward making it happen” — “Trying” is a convenient way for you to never actually have to
Is there a conversation you know you need to have, but you just don’t know what to say so you push it off? For starters, you are just dragging out your discomfort. You still have the issue AND the big thought that “I need to say something about this’” weighs very heavily on your mind.
Don’t avoid difficult convos, plan them for real effectiveness. Read More »
Of course, simply, you can’t hear someone else if you are talking. More than that, the quieter the noise – the busyness, franticness – the more you are able to hear and learn and appreciate the world and people around you. In the silent moments of your life – when you are not inundated with
The quieter you are, the more you can hear. Read More »
Whoever expresses their emotions first – whether through words or body language – gets to share their feelings completely before the other can speak. It may not be easy, but it is important to allow the speaker to share it all. This shows respect to the speaker. Even if your spouse is sharing complaints about
Whoever shares first gets to finish speaking before the other shares Read More »
