There’s no way you could really know what your spouse really wants if they haven’t expressly told you what they want. You can’t read their mind. Of course, you can try to read into their hints or reactions, but you won’t know for sure. Make it easy for them to tell you. Invite feedback. – […]
You want to know what your spouse thinks. Ask them. Read More »
We are constantly trying to fix and improve things that are not directly in our control. The more we try, the more exhausted and helpless we feel. Because they are not problems that are meant to be solved by us. You can have the most impact on your own perspective and attitude. Start there.
Recognize your zone of impact. You can’t do more than that. Read More »
Notice the positives in your spouse. Notice abilities, talents, efforts. Name them. State examples of where you have seen them. “You come up with such innovative solutions, like the time when …” “You make me smile when I’m feeling stressed. For example, just now when I …” These fuller statements help the other person feel
Look out for the positive. Acknowledge them. Out loud. Read More »
Sometimes, we sabotage our own happiness and that of our relationships with our own thoughts. Our minds go on and on endlessly with “Why isn’t it better”, “It shouldn’t have happened that way”, “What if …”. Judgments, expectations, worries, resentments, and stories about what should and shouldn’t happen. We don’t allow ourselves to just enjoy
Get out of your own way. Read More »
HOD (week 5) Literal definition: Majesty. Thanksgiving. In other words: Humility – Acknowledgement – Gratitude – Admitting – Modesty – Comprising – Appreciative – Consulting – Flexibility – Open mindedness EXPRESSIONS of Hod • With humility, we can make space for others. We can listen to and appreciate the opinion and perspective of others. We
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“Pesach Sheni is about second chances: ‘Nothing is ever lost: it’s never too late!’ Every individual, no matter what their situation, always has the potential to make a “leap forward”. Do what you can to maximize from the opportunity of a second chance. Learn from the first mistake. Acknowledge your role in the mistake. Recognize
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A stressful situation can trigger a ‘fight or flight’ response in yourself. This is a sequence of hormonal changes and physiological responses designed to help us humans deal with matters of immediate survival. It causes us to want to either run away from the situation or fight it. This ‘fight or flight’ is a human
Stressed? Anxious? Take deep breaths Read More »
Have faith in your spouse. They can probably do it [whatever it is that you doubt they can do] if you just give them the space and time. And respect. They will probably figure it out. Even if it is not the way you would have done it. But the job will be done. And
Have faith in your spouse. They are more capable then you might think. Read More »
Don’t take the yoke and stress of full responsibility – if it is not all yours. Don’t push full responsibility (blame) onto your spouse – if you did contribute to the issue. Most likely it is a case of shared responsibility. Reflect on what you each have contributed to the issue. Take responsibility for your
Don’t polarize, assuming it is all your fault or all your spouse’s. Read More »
When your spouse wrongs you, you can’t wrong them to make it right.
You can’t put out a fire with more fire. Read More »
