So you’ve noticed together that you have a harmful pattern such as interrupting each other during conversations. You’ve spoken about it and want to work on it. Agree on a way to gently remind each other when you slip back into it. For example, you might use a specific phrase or signal like, “Let’s remember […]
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It may be hard to swallow your pride and apologize, but it’s also hard to live in a disconnected relationship. Choose your hard. Choosing to work through the discomfort of apologizing is the right way to respond when you’ve wronged someone.– For you, it’s an opportunity for personal growth and integrity.– For your spouse, it
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It can be tough to hear your spouse bring up things they wish you’d do differently. If you avoid these conversations or get defensive, you miss out on chances to grow as a person and as a couple. This can really strain your relationship. Instead, try to be open to what your spouse is saying.
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As we prepare for the upcoming Tishrei holidays, it’s important to focus not only on the spiritual aspects like Tehillim, added prayers, and Teshuva, but also on the practical side of things. Tishrei brings with it meals, guests, budgets, and hosting responsibilities, all of which require careful thought and planning. Balancing both the spiritual and
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When you’re hoping for a change, shift your focus from the present to the future. Don’t get stuck on the present by asking yourself questions like “Why is this happening?” or “How did I get here?” What we focus on gets amplified. If you focus on the negative, the problems, or the mistakes, those will
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Keeping what bothers you inside can have negative effects on your relationship. Here’s why it’s important to address your concerns openly: When you do share, express your frustrations with respect using “I” statements, such as “I feel upset when…” or “I need support with…” This approach helps avoid blame and focuses on your feelings and
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Focusing on solutions instead of dwelling on blame or past mistakes is key to addressing issues productively and moving relationships forward positively. This approach involves both partners collaborating to resolve problems and supporting each other as needed. By avoiding the negativity of blame, our brains are freed to be more creative and effective in finding
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The way we perceive and frame our problems significantly influences how effectively we can tackle them. Viewing problems as challenges encourages a proactive approach. Instead of feeling daunted by their complexity or scale, we see them as invitations to stretch ourselves intellectually and emotionally. Each challenge offers us a chance to expand our understanding, deepen
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Life is full of challenges—it’s unavoidable. Why not choose our problems? When we make changes or pursue our aspirations, we inevitably invite new challenges into our lives: adjusting to new schedules, meeting new people, learning new things, and navigating changes in relationships. Essentially, we are choosing our problems. However, these challenges are different—they’re aligned with
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Ignoring problems doesn’t make them disappear; it often makes them worse. Problems that are not addressed can accumulate, creating more significant issues down the line. Some of the problems we may be dealing with now exist because we didn’t act when we should have. In effect, we chose these problems passively—either by not addressing smaller
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