Live life. Experience the joy that life is. Celebrate the small moments in life. Celebrate achievements.Join in the celebration of others.Get involved in the community.Or a hobby.Or a great conversation over coffee.Go on a date with your spouse.Try new things.Do things that are interesting and important to you. Often.—Pull yourself out of the daily grind. […]
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There is a real distinction between merely hearing the words and really listening for the message. Unlike ‘hearing’ what the speaker is saying, listening requires our full concentration which involves using all of our senses on what exactly is being said. The words they are saying are not telling the whole story. When you tune
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Hope is the belief that there will be a brighter future. Hope makes things possible. Good things are always possible. Why choose to believe that the worst will happen when a good result is also possible? Choose hope. The opposite of hope is despair:Despair is the belief that things cannot and will not get better,
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Developing common interests and hobbies strengthens the idea that you and your spouse are a team. When you share a passion for the same interests, it can bond you together. When you both enjoy doing something, and you do it together – you end up spending time together. And it is pleasant and happy time
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Naysaying is devaluing or rejecting a suggestion without evaluating it fairly. “Nice try, nice idea but it’s never going to work.” “No way.” “Here we go again.” Sometimes it is more subtle and can be innocent questions, reminders of unforeseen impediments, and doubts. Naysaying holds back positive changes. And, it negatively impacts relationships. Nobody likes
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Of course, you are perfectly capable of taking care of yourself, but one of the nice things about being married is that you don’t have to shoulder life all on your own. Let your spouse take care of you once in a while. You don’t have to do it alone. Your spouse wants what is
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You don’t have to do it all to have it all. Get the support and help you need. Even if it means you have to ask for it directly. It may feel like strength to be able to do everything ourselves. We may even get a momentary high feeling like we’ve proven something or shown
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When you’ve been married for a long time, it’s easy to slip into a daily routine and familiar lifestyle and forget that you might not necessarily be meeting all of your partner’s needs. Just because someone isn’t vocalizing a complaint doesn’t mean that everything is blissful. Take the time together to zoom out of the
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Admitting a wrong-doing generally isn’t easy — especially when doing so means acknowledging that you hurt someone you care about. When an apology is absent or it’s a bad apology, it puts a crack in the very foundation of a relationship. You have to mean it. It must be genuine. An insincere apology is worse
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In life, lots of things go differently than we had expected or hoped. There will be unexpected events, expenses, and situations. It’s important for partners to understand and anticipate that as part of life. And since we can’t really anticipate anything, we must therefore react with flexibility. If we are too rigid and we resist
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